I think I blew people's conception me out of the water...

[calanor]

I live in a rural area... Bible belt.. you know.. where one of the local preachers made a big point of telling all the newspapers.. that Harry Potter was leading the children of God into HELL.. I think he forgot the adults

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[dixiebell12]

We must be neighbors. I'm from the deep south and grew up in one of those southern baptist churches that preaches fire and brimstone, so I can understand what that's like. I had a neighbor that sent his son to a DR. to try and fix his gay son. Just about everyone around here is homophobic.

My husband worked with a lady that was gay and everyone treated her so badly that she quit and moved to California. Before she left we asked her and her partner out to dinner and my husband said she was almost in tears when he asked her. I'll never forget her thanking him for treating her nicely.

It really sucks sometimes living in the south, I wish everyone wasn't so closed minded about everything. I was lucky enough to be raised to believe you were suposed to treat everyone with respect and kindness, I just wish everyone was. Go give your friend a hug for me.

Hugs
Dixiebell

[calanor]

I think she's doing allot of exploring.. her lover.. is married.. I told that is a bit dangerous.. her mother is giving her grief.. I told her if her mother loved her it wouldn't matter..

She even threaten to take her kids.. I said.. that card don't work anymore.. and I said she has an elderly abuse mark against her.. she doesn't have a leg to stand on.

Southern Illinois.. I'm about 2 hours to 90 mins from St. Louis.

I don't think she thought I would be accepting.. and I shocked her..

:D

hugs.. I will

[dixiebell12]

Hails from Mobile, Alabama.

I'm glad she had someone like you to talk too.

I bet we're the same age. I had the big hair and a Duran Duran addiction. Swatch watches, coke shirts, ray bans, and the best music ever. I think I have just about every 80's song I could get my hands on. I loved the 80's

Dixiebell

[calanor]

graduated in 1987... When music was GOOD and REAL... and Michael Jackson looked.. like a real person.. We had big Hair.. wore trashy clothes... banged our heads... Punked out... Big earings.. Swatches.. Loved them.. Great Movies.. Slasher movies.. The birth of Freddy Krueger.. and Michael Myers..

[littleroo27]

that is so wonderful!!!

I spent about a year bugging my ex-boyfriend before he finally admitted that he was gay. Then we spent a year as roommates and went to the gay bar two to three times a week and talked to all the drag queens and had SO MUCH FUN.

When I was a high school freshman I became good friends with a gay guy who was a junior. He was the kind of person who couldn't really stay in the closet because his whole personality and look just said "I suck cock and I like it."

One day he just didn't show up to school, and he NEVER missed school. Then he continued to not show up. Turned out he decided to move away and live with his pot growing, pot smoking mother rather than stay in a school where he was constantly harassed and made fun of. I guess my boyfriend at the time was really lucky that he was able to get away with being a shy artist with a girlfriend instead of a shy artist whose queer. At least until he'd graduated.

[calanor]

That would Jay.. to me..

He went to the same church as me... we sat together in the same pew.. passed notes..

but he was gay.. he didn't broadcast. He approached the school board and applied to graduate early... at the end of his Junior year.. he had all his credits..

They weren't going to let him.... but told them bluntly that they would find him dead one day ..

it seems the other boys had been harassing him and gotten violent..

He left town that summer.. The last I heard is that he went to New York.. and grad from Uni there..

[littleroo27]

at least he's doing well. I don't think my friend who was out did very well right after that, though I have no idea what he might be doing now.

My ex boyfriend is an absolutely amazing artist, cartoonist and writer. His only problem is follow through. His parents got divorced and his ex step-dad stopped paying tuition for art school. Instead of taking out a student loan for his last semester, he dropped out and moved back home. His book is almost finished, and will probably always stay that way. His art is amazing and he wants to write a comic book series, but it's all dreams because he won't go after what he needs to in order to see it happen. Silly flaky artist *sigh*

P.S.

[littleroo27]

The ex drew both of these in high school:

the lost world

Tornados
My step-mom loved this one and I ended up buying it from him for her after college.

[knic26]

This sounds *disturbingly* familiar...change 80's to 90s and, ya know, the part where you were writing, to reading, I have lived this...even the "I'm Gay, Kim" part, because that's my name too. Scary.

[calanor]

Hello Kim!!

At one time I would have probably had a larger reaction.. but now.. nothing bothers me..

I write what I want.. read what I want.. and have the friends I want.. be they gay.. or lesbian or straight...

[knic26]

Damn Straight...or not....you know what I mean. *lol*

[lilyeyes]

*snickers* That's totally funny!! I loved your reaction!

I was born and raised Catholic - went through high school in American Samoa (Dad was Federal) where they raised their children cross-gender. Seriously! The Samoans love large families, but if they had several sons, the next child, no matter what the plumbing, was raised as a girl. Sooooooo, it was a cultural practice that was widely accepted in the three+ years I was there. It made moving to the the Bay Area in California very easy. :-{)

[calanor]

United Church of Christ.... We're the one with adds on TV welcoming EVERYONE... which I think is cool.. but mine would sooner spit on you than welcome a Gay couple into the church building..

I think it would liven things up.. :D

I bet it was.. When I lived in Mass.. It was nothing to see openly gay.. or Transvestites in the stores.. which I thought was cool.. my ex..didn't.. he would just sneer and bitch.. which is story for another day..

[lilyeyes]

Yes, odd really - as my brothers (3 in their teens at the time) all came back homophobic to various degrees, and my mom remebers the fa'afines, as they are called, fondly.

My husband likes to make noises of being homophobic, but knows exactly what I am writing and has a habit of reading over my shoulder at times before he shudders and walks away! *snicker!*