Tiff rant

[calibella16]

How would you deal with a situation like this:

One of your best female friends is involved with a complete loser for a little over a year now.  He won't commit at all.  Not even making her an "official" girlfriend- continues to tell her that he doesn't see anything long term EVER, and when someone else comes along he will continue to "push" her

Comments

[nycshowgirl]

It's a hard situation. I know I've allowed myself to be on the back burner before. When you are in it, it is SO hard to see why he's so bad for you. Why don't you give her an example (or watch a movie that deals with) of the same situation she's in. She'll be able to see from the outside and it may help her realize what is wrong with what she is allowing to go on.

[calibella16]

I know, I've tried.... Maybe I didnt portray the situation to its fullest... The more frustrating part of the whole thing is she sees the wrong, and she knows what she "should" do, but would rather degrade herself and allow him to treat her like shit because its better than " being without him at all- or worse yet, being alone"- in her own words. Its just so sad and it hurts me to see that she's got such low self worth that she'll let him do this. - its not even like she has witnessed this sort of behavior from her parents. They are STILL married after like 30 yrs, and act like they are honeymooning! I don't know where it comes from. It's just hard.