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Why are women such fools? Seriously, it's no wonder we're considered the weaker sex when we do stupid shit like this.
See, my sister has this boyfriend. She lives with him, has been seeing him for about a year and a half, and the relationship has been a disaster from the very beginning.
He's an ass, to put it quite simply. He's controlling and manipulative and over-bearing. He's got psycological problems, literally. He treats her like dirt 95% of the time they are together, and she spends her whole life walking on eggshells, hoping that what she says or does won't set him off into one of his temper-tantrums.
One of his favorite lines is 'I'd get better, if you were a better person'.
She's miserable with him.
And she's. still. with. him.
Why? Why is she still with him, I ask you? I have no idea. I seriously cannot fathom the reasoning that must go on inside her head for her to still be with him. Because she knows that she shouldn't be with him. She's said it herself!
She knows that he's no good. She knows that he's a bad person. That he's dangerous, for Christ's sake. But she won't leave him.
Not one person in our family likes him. In fact, he's been banned from returning to my grandparents house ever again because he ruined Thanksgiving last year.
This guy is just like my father (and we all know what a standup citizen he is). And my sister knows it to. My mom tells her constantly how her boyfriend is just like my dad. Treats her the way my dad treated my mom, almost to a tea. And she knows this! She sees it! She admits it!
But will she leave him? No.
This weekend I got off work and checked my voicemail, only to get this message. 'This is your grandmother. I'm really worried about your sister, and I need her address so that I can call 911 and send them to her house.'
What?! So I call my mom's cell and my sister picks up. She's fine, she says. There's nothing to worry about, she says. Call everyone and tell them not to worry, she says.
So I rush home and ask my mom what's going on. Oh, well, her boyfriend kicked her out of the house, and now they've spent the last 3 hours in a screaming match, while our entire family sits by their phones, wondering if he's snapped and beat the shit out of her yet.
And I say yet, because we wonder that all the time.
He's hurt her before. I'm the only one who knows, but once when they were arguing he grabbed her arm so hard that he left a bruise in the shape of his hand.
We all know that one day he's going to snap and hit her. And when that happens he probably won't stop until she's in the hospital, or worse.
And she knows this!!!
She knows he's violent (he's gotten into trouble with the cops more than once for starting very violent barfights for no reason). She knows he has a horrible temper. And yet... she stays.
Why? Why do women do this? Why do women stay in these relationships? Why do they get into them in the first place?
See, this is actually par for course with my family. That whole 'girls marry their father' thing, has gone down for generations on my mothers side. The bad thing is is that it creates a long line of really bad fathers, who influence their daughters to marry more really bad men.
My mom did it. My grandmother did it. My great grandmother did it. And now it looks like my sister will to.
I just don't get it.
I see the way my mother lived and the way my grandmother lived, and I've done everything in my power to stay far far away from men like that. I won't let it happen to me. Even if it means I have to spend my life alone, I would rather do that than marry a man like my father. Or even just marry a man who is unworthy of me.
I know I deserve to be loved. I know I deserve to be cherished. And if I ever found myself with a man that didn't treat me like that, I wouldn't stay.
Because I have seen what it does to women, to get trapped with a man like that.
So why can't everyone else see it?
Why do all the beautiful, strong women of the world, who are worthy of no less than a man that treats them like a queen, get trapped with all these useless, pathetic, cruel, evil bastards?
I just don't get it. Someone explain it to me please.
*sighs*
And after this big fight, that had us all wondering if my sister would end up in the hospital, what did she do? She went out on a date with him the next night. After she promised us that it would be at least a week before she went back to him.
I just don't get it.
- Meagan
See, my sister has this boyfriend. She lives with him, has been seeing him for about a year and a half, and the relationship has been a disaster from the very beginning.
He's an ass, to put it quite simply. He's controlling and manipulative and over-bearing. He's got psycological problems, literally. He treats her like dirt 95% of the time they are together, and she spends her whole life walking on eggshells, hoping that what she says or does won't set him off into one of his temper-tantrums.
One of his favorite lines is 'I'd get better, if you were a better person'.
She's miserable with him.
And she's. still. with. him.
Why? Why is she still with him, I ask you? I have no idea. I seriously cannot fathom the reasoning that must go on inside her head for her to still be with him. Because she knows that she shouldn't be with him. She's said it herself!
She knows that he's no good. She knows that he's a bad person. That he's dangerous, for Christ's sake. But she won't leave him.
Not one person in our family likes him. In fact, he's been banned from returning to my grandparents house ever again because he ruined Thanksgiving last year.
This guy is just like my father (and we all know what a standup citizen he is). And my sister knows it to. My mom tells her constantly how her boyfriend is just like my dad. Treats her the way my dad treated my mom, almost to a tea. And she knows this! She sees it! She admits it!
But will she leave him? No.
This weekend I got off work and checked my voicemail, only to get this message. 'This is your grandmother. I'm really worried about your sister, and I need her address so that I can call 911 and send them to her house.'
What?! So I call my mom's cell and my sister picks up. She's fine, she says. There's nothing to worry about, she says. Call everyone and tell them not to worry, she says.
So I rush home and ask my mom what's going on. Oh, well, her boyfriend kicked her out of the house, and now they've spent the last 3 hours in a screaming match, while our entire family sits by their phones, wondering if he's snapped and beat the shit out of her yet.
And I say yet, because we wonder that all the time.
He's hurt her before. I'm the only one who knows, but once when they were arguing he grabbed her arm so hard that he left a bruise in the shape of his hand.
We all know that one day he's going to snap and hit her. And when that happens he probably won't stop until she's in the hospital, or worse.
And she knows this!!!
She knows he's violent (he's gotten into trouble with the cops more than once for starting very violent barfights for no reason). She knows he has a horrible temper. And yet... she stays.
Why? Why do women do this? Why do women stay in these relationships? Why do they get into them in the first place?
See, this is actually par for course with my family. That whole 'girls marry their father' thing, has gone down for generations on my mothers side. The bad thing is is that it creates a long line of really bad fathers, who influence their daughters to marry more really bad men.
My mom did it. My grandmother did it. My great grandmother did it. And now it looks like my sister will to.
I just don't get it.
I see the way my mother lived and the way my grandmother lived, and I've done everything in my power to stay far far away from men like that. I won't let it happen to me. Even if it means I have to spend my life alone, I would rather do that than marry a man like my father. Or even just marry a man who is unworthy of me.
I know I deserve to be loved. I know I deserve to be cherished. And if I ever found myself with a man that didn't treat me like that, I wouldn't stay.
Because I have seen what it does to women, to get trapped with a man like that.
So why can't everyone else see it?
Why do all the beautiful, strong women of the world, who are worthy of no less than a man that treats them like a queen, get trapped with all these useless, pathetic, cruel, evil bastards?
I just don't get it. Someone explain it to me please.
*sighs*
And after this big fight, that had us all wondering if my sister would end up in the hospital, what did she do? She went out on a date with him the next night. After she promised us that it would be at least a week before she went back to him.
I just don't get it.
- Meagan