Coworkers and facebook

[callygal1]

I love my coworkers I really do. I don't mind the getting picked on constantly at work for whatever reason...ok well maybe sometimes it grates on my nerves. But oh how I wish I never added one I work with on my facebook. Anything I post fandom related that is me being me, who I am, I am a fangirl.. she constantly puts "You need to get a grown up

Comments

[cinnabari]

You could make a list on FB to post your fandom stuff to--which might be everyone EXCEPT her. Then when you post fan stuff, select that particular list.

Or smart off to her. When she posts that comment, say back "Eh, grown up is so overrated."

Or tell her to knock it off. Nicely. In person. Tell her it makes you feel bad. If she is half a decent person, she'll stop. If she continues, KNOWING it upsets you, then delete her.

[gi_jules]

^This. Or just post pictures of the hotass people involved in all that fannish stuff and say "LOOKS LIKE GROWNUPS TO ME BITCH". Ahem. Right. Sorry. I have patience issues with people who do that crap, lol.

[callygal1]

I love your Spock icon! LOL! I have no patience with her left at all hon. I so agree. Hubby says just ignore her, well no! It's humiliating for me that my other friends can see what she posts! I used to be hounded, especially by my brother for things i liked all my life , like liking star wars or ewan mcgregor was stupid... my brother once destroyed my birthday cake that had Ewan on it.. Her behavior throws me back into those days and i'm nearly 40!

[gi_jules]

I used to have a really hard time telling people they were being rude or ignorant because sometimes it causes more trouble than it fixes. These days I just consider it a public service, lol.

[neovenom]

Is her name Belinda? I saw some comment along those lines in a pic of us.

Anyways, I also say do one of these: 1) talk to her, tell her it's hurtful, hope she stops. 2) defriend her, if she asks, just tell her you want to keep personal life more private from coworkers.

[callygal1]

Yes, it is. Oh how embarrassing that you even know her name. Yes, she posted like 5 times or more "Why is hubby never in your pictures" She is unrelenting in her stupidity(pestering which she thinks she's being funny!!!) I'm going thru fb now to see what options i can do before deleting her or talking to her... maybe I can just block her posts without her knowing? or block her from seeing any of my posts?

[l_jade]

You know.. I'd just delete her.. no need to ask her or anything.. if she later ask, just tell her your Facebook is for your fannish stuff, she wouldn't like to read all those stuff anyway... and if she ask to be re-friended, just ignore..

Life is difficult already.. you do not need that kind of person added to your fun-time

[callygal1]

The bitch of the situation is, she has no clue what she's doing is offenssive she is that "undereducated" she thinks it's cute or she's just agravating me. She wuld be OMG that offends you? You need to grow up ! I would love to delete her but so many of us at work are on facebook they would all notice and it just is a bigger problem. Sigh*... i honestly would never have added her if I had foreseen this kind of issue. It's really hard to chastise honestly ignorant people you know? I keep looking on fb new stupid timeline how to block her seeing my posts or hide them from her and i can't find these options it's like Greek to me! You are sooo right, it's not worth all this. I'm about to just delete and repost anything she writes on maybe then she will get it.

[lorettakay]

I have a friend who kind of makes mean and off the cuff comments. I've been friends with her forever so I guess she thinks she's okay or she's being funny. It's things like this that make me want to quit fb. I agree with the making of a list of friends you like seeing your fun stuff or anything in general. I do that. Mainly cause I don't need everyone I'm friends with up in my business.

I'd also say something to her. Nicely and all friendly like some people don't know they're being an ass. My friend thinks she's being funny. I think she's being mean.

[callygal1]

I honestly do not understand these people. They just don't know they are being rude? they've obviously never been taught or they know what they are doing and don't give a flip! It does make me want to quit fb. I also get frustrated cause I can't always talk about the things I wish or even put a "Like" on certain things cause others I don't want to see (I have very many conservative relatives, friends on fb) I think she's being mean too and I'm to chicken to say anything.. Because she's acutally just ignorant. She's really nice and sweet in the ofc here but relentless in her pestering of people including me. She just doens't get it and that I find the hardest to try and speak to her about.

[spartan_117]

For what it's worth I agree with everyone. Talk to her. You don't have to be bitchy or nasty just tell her this is who you are. Never apologise for being a fangirl, gorgeous *squishy hugs*

I'd be more inclined to make a comment back at her saying something along the lines of 'Show me where it's written that I'm not acting like an adult and I think about it." or ask her exactly what it is she thinks adult interests are because I'm sure as hell curious about that.

[callygal1]

Thanks for the hug :) well said, I wish I had the guts to actually come out and say something to her... we work in such close quarters it would be miserable to make her mad.... :(