I thought I should really just post to note that just as I sat down to plan our consultation on the Sexual Health Strategy, look what came on my random playlist
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Oh, not just UK-ers, by any means! It's a scoping study (hee! That sounds rather self-important) - I just want to work out what questions to ask for the final thing, which will be Scotland-focussed.
I've unlocked this, so spread the word all you like.
(Unless, biascut, you want me to leave it locked, as you were the only person who posted under the friends-lock.)
Where did you get your sex education about sex between women? 1. On safe sex: From my friends and my ex-girlfriend - after I'd slept with her. Most of my friends were involved in university welfare type things or HIV awareness education. And, having learnt everything I know off my mates, I seem to be better informed than any nurse or doctor that I've ever spoken to. Isn't that appalling? 2. On the mechanics and What Is It Lesbians Actually Do, Anyway: I knew about the oral sex, and the rest ... kind of just came naturally. Surprisingly so. *sly grin*
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women? Er - probably just using dental dams for oral sex unless you're in a monogamous relationship. Or clingfilm, but only non-microwaveable clingfilm because microwaveable clingfilm is porous to let steam escape, and the holes are big enough for the HIV virus to pass through. And it's important to get tested if you're monogamous and to use barriers if you're not because, dude, you can get gonorrhea in your throat. (Quoting the ex-
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Oops, I forgot the last one. In an ideal world, I would have known as much about safe sex and the sexual health issues surrounding oral/genital contact or vibrator/genital contact as I do about the sexual health issues surrounding penis/vaginal sex (even if I wasn't gay myself, because, you know, Cunnilingus Is Not Just For Lesbians.) How come I memorised all the safe sex stuff in Just Seventeen from the age of about thirteen, and could probably quote the relative rates of pregnancy on the pill and the condom when I was seventeen but I'd never heard of dental dams until I was 21 and at university? That's crap
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Where did you get your sex education about sex between women? Initially from fanfic, I suppose, at least when I was younger. This past semester, I took a sexual information/sex ed class here at college, which sort of fleshed out the info base. Ideally, we would have gotten the info along with the straight sex ed (as well as more sex ed in general) in high school.
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women? Not sharing toys, dental dam/Saran Wrap for oral sex if it's with a partner you're worried about catching something from.
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem? The sexual info center on campus (student run). This is an ideal situation for me, but in general it would be better if something like this were avaliable to the general public.
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice? My friends, either in RL or online. If it was something really serious that for some reason I didn't feel I could talk to my friends about, potentially the counseling center on campus.
Where did you get your sex education about sex between women?
My sex education mostly talked about particular acts, not orientations. So more "if you do this, it's safe, if you do that, it's not" than "if you're straight, do this, if you're gay, do this." That said, it was definitely implicitly heterocentric, and I had to do some extrapolation.
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
I always think of safer sex as a continuum -- the only completely safe sex is no sex -- but certainly acts involving bare genitalia are less safe than acts not involving them. Covering them with some sort of latex increases the safety. I think every relationship needs to make those decisions for themselves, though.
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
My doctor.
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
I don't generally ask for relationship advice. Probably my closest friends, in a pinch.
Who do you talk to about sex and sexual health?
My partners.
And, in an ideal world, how would you have
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Where did you get your sex education about sex between women?
Um... hands-on experience? ;-) It sounds like a joke, but I was thinking about it and it's really not. I don't think I read a graphic description of sex between women, or heard it discussed, till years after the first time I had sex with another woman. (Not many years, admittedly. One or two.) All the lesbian novels I read were really fairly ungraphic. I had a friend who bought a copy of The Joy Of Lesbian Sex, which I borrowed and read, but I'm fairly sure that wasn't till I was 19. And I was older than that before I read a fictional or autobiographical graphic description of two women having sex (that was written from a lesbian POV, that is: not that I think only a lesbian can write woman/woman sex scenes, but I had read several graphic woman/woman sex scenes where the point was evidently to have two women mimic heterosexual missionary position intercourse as far as human ingenuity enabled them: and I just dismissed this as absolutely nothing to do with me.)
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I've unlocked this, so spread the word all you like.
(Unless, biascut, you want me to leave it locked, as you were the only person who posted under the friends-lock.)
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Very interesting questions, by the way! I shall be interested to see what turns up.
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1. On safe sex: From my friends and my ex-girlfriend - after I'd slept with her. Most of my friends were involved in university welfare type things or HIV awareness education. And, having learnt everything I know off my mates, I seem to be better informed than any nurse or doctor that I've ever spoken to. Isn't that appalling?
2. On the mechanics and What Is It Lesbians Actually Do, Anyway: I knew about the oral sex, and the rest ... kind of just came naturally. Surprisingly so. *sly grin*
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
Er - probably just using dental dams for oral sex unless you're in a monogamous relationship. Or clingfilm, but only non-microwaveable clingfilm because microwaveable clingfilm is porous to let steam escape, and the holes are big enough for the HIV virus to pass through. And it's important to get tested if you're monogamous and to use barriers if you're not because, dude, you can get gonorrhea in your throat. (Quoting the ex- ( ... )
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Initially from fanfic, I suppose, at least when I was younger. This past semester, I took a sexual information/sex ed class here at college, which sort of fleshed out the info base. Ideally, we would have gotten the info along with the straight sex ed (as well as more sex ed in general) in high school.
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
Not sharing toys, dental dam/Saran Wrap for oral sex if it's with a partner you're worried about catching something from.
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
The sexual info center on campus (student run). This is an ideal situation for me, but in general it would be better if something like this were avaliable to the general public.
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
My friends, either in RL or online. If it was something really serious that for some reason I didn't feel I could talk to my friends about, potentially the counseling center on campus.
Who do you talk to about sex ( ... )
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My sex education mostly talked about particular acts, not orientations. So more "if you do this, it's safe, if you do that, it's not" than "if you're straight, do this, if you're gay, do this." That said, it was definitely implicitly heterocentric, and I had to do some extrapolation.
What do you think "safer sex" means, between women?
I always think of safer sex as a continuum -- the only completely safe sex is no sex -- but certainly acts involving bare genitalia are less safe than acts not involving them. Covering them with some sort of latex increases the safety. I think every relationship needs to make those decisions for themselves, though.
Where do/ would you go for help with a sexual health problem?
My doctor.
Where do/ would you go for relationship advice?
I don't generally ask for relationship advice. Probably my closest friends, in a pinch.
Who do you talk to about sex and sexual health?
My partners.
And, in an ideal world, how would you have ( ... )
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Um... hands-on experience? ;-) It sounds like a joke, but I was thinking about it and it's really not. I don't think I read a graphic description of sex between women, or heard it discussed, till years after the first time I had sex with another woman. (Not many years, admittedly. One or two.) All the lesbian novels I read were really fairly ungraphic. I had a friend who bought a copy of The Joy Of Lesbian Sex, which I borrowed and read, but I'm fairly sure that wasn't till I was 19. And I was older than that before I read a fictional or autobiographical graphic description of two women having sex (that was written from a lesbian POV, that is: not that I think only a lesbian can write woman/woman sex scenes, but I had read several graphic woman/woman sex scenes where the point was evidently to have two women mimic heterosexual missionary position intercourse as far as human ingenuity enabled them: and I just dismissed this as absolutely nothing to do with me.)
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