Spanking
anonymous
September 28 2005, 21:10:08 UTC
Well me and you have talked about this before. Yes I am for spankying but under certain guidelines. There is only about a few years I think where spanking is effective. But the punishment should fit the crime and spanking should be a last resort in most cases. But children should know where the "power" is in a family aka mom and dad. Plus a spank should be hard enough where the child gets it but not hard enough where they can't sit down. Also, if a spank is neccessary it should be agreed upon by both parents. Followed by a talk so the child understands why they were spanked. But I know me and you will talk about this a lot more before we have children and I'm sure my mind can be changed I love you!!! Stephen Cara's Future father of you Kids Fiance
I'm ok with spanking, but not all the time. I don't believe it should be some knock-down-drag-out event or anything. A simple "pop" on the bottom will do. I do not believe in beating, whipping, slapping, etc. I got spanked when I was a kid. It wasn't frequent, but when it happened- I learned my lesson. And I didn't grow up feeling abused, thinking violence was cool, or hating my parents. When/if I have kids, they will probably be popped for wrong-doing but nothing extreme.
spare the rod and spoil the childheidijbSeptember 29 2005, 05:27:22 UTC
thats the bible's take. if it wasn't WAY too late at night for me to think or even be awake, i'd get the reference. okay, this is my opinion: i was spanked, and i never did anything earth shattering bad. i was never in trouble in school. i don't have any criminal charges. i'm a basically good person. i attribute this to home training. part of that was being spanked when i was little for doing what i wasn't supposed to do. i do not believe in spanking out of anger; that is abuse. i do not believe that every disciplinary action should be a spanking. i do not believe that all children need to be spanked. i do not believe that no children need to be spanked. i do believe in crime and punishment being equal. if my kid hits me, they're getting spanked. no debates. i do believe that children have the right to know exactly why they receive ANY consequence. they wouldn't learn anything if they didn't. i do believe that discipline should be consistent and loving. angry discipline is wrong. even if its a time out. its wrong.
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if it wasn't WAY too late at night for me to think or even be awake, i'd get the reference.
okay, this is my opinion: i was spanked, and i never did anything earth shattering bad. i was never in trouble in school. i don't have any criminal charges. i'm a basically good person. i attribute this to home training. part of that was being spanked when i was little for doing what i wasn't supposed to do.
i do not believe in spanking out of anger; that is abuse.
i do not believe that every disciplinary action should be a spanking.
i do not believe that all children need to be spanked.
i do not believe that no children need to be spanked.
i do believe in crime and punishment being equal. if my kid hits me, they're getting spanked. no debates.
i do believe that children have the right to know exactly why they receive ANY consequence. they wouldn't learn anything if they didn't.
i do believe that discipline should be consistent and loving. angry discipline is wrong. even if its a time out. its wrong.
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