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[carinn]

this whole people acting like I am being completely ridiculous by being upset about Alex, trying to belittle my pain by going 'oh it was JUST a miscarriage', and general not letting me try to cope in my way thing is just ugh. Alex was not a puppy that ran away. he was a real living person even if I was tthe only one that felt him moving on the

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[pooklaroux]

woops, I forgot I wasn't logged in -- the screened comment is mine. you can email me if you want to talk about it more.

[calicokat]

Sometimes people who have never had a child go through serious trauma losing an unborn baby. If anyone tells you that losing a baby, and especially losing a baby after losing Vivi and Billy, is NOT a hugely traumatic event then those people are either disingenuous or ignorant. I know pooklaroux is there for you, but if at all possible look for a trauma therapist/counselor.

You have suffered trauma, are suffering trauma, and although I'm not a professional I would posit you are also at risk for developing post-traumatic stress. Looking back at your journal entries since losing Vivi I would suggest looking into if you are already affected by post-traumatic stress (sudden flashbacks/distressing memories). A trauma counselor would be the one who'd know for sure.

Whatever the case, however many times people try to calm you by downplaying your distress you have every reason to be distressed. It's hard to comprehend anyone telling you otherwise.

[calicokat]

Well, okay, it's not hard to comprehend, but that's an entire feminist rant. It's very difficult to conceive in my own mind, I'll damn well say that.

[gaiman_phile]

I am so inclined to agree with you on this!!!! Feminist rant or not, you're right. Speaking as someone who's been in a similar situation as our beloved friend here, I will say that PTSD is borne of all sorts of situations that are traumatic, and I can tell you from my own experiences, having lost a baby - born or unborn - sucks to the nth degree, not to mention, it's traumatic as all get out.

Karen, you need, seriously, to find a counselour. ASAP. I can give you the # to mine, if you want. <3

[gaiman_phile]

People just suck sometimes, Love.

Hang in there as best you can. I am serious, if you want Sherri's #, I'm happy to give it to you. She's a really good counselour.