Thought...

[carpediemcult]

I was offered a suggestion today by a coworker that sat through my long boring story about losing love. I know. I know... I'm 90% over it, but the last 10% is the fucker that won't leave me be. I want to live my life without the thought of her in my head. I need closure. I don't think I've ever gotten it. I can't confront her because we all know

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As a friend...

[lr83]

I would tell you that closure is nothing more than opening up old bottle of soda. It's flat, it's been sitting there for a long time, and no one really wants to drink it, at which point, there is no use to drink old, flat soda...

If you want to move on don't think so much about the things that weren't said. If you didn't say them then, then it was not as important as you think it was, or else you would have urged to say them.

You and I have that aspect in common: we over-analyze things. It's not like we can help it, we're just wired that way.

You're doing a good job at putting yourself out there. However, I have noticed that when you're close to hooking up, you start thinking about it too much and it sometimes holds you back from doing what you wanted to do.

An old friend told me, "Stop thinking so much, even if you plan things, not everything will happen as you planned."

So I hand the same advise to you. Stop thinking so much as to what will happen during, and after... think about what's there now, and how you can take action.

Re: As a friend...

[carpediemcult]

I've felt a lot better honestly. And I have not written the letter yet, but I am going to. I still need to get my feelings out. And if I do that on a piece of paper those feelings won't be in me anymore, but on a piece of paper. I won't have to think about it anymore. And I know I'm going to get no answers out of it, but just the same I'm not going to get any answers out of her just drama. I don't need drama. I'm over her, not the situation.

As far as possible hook-ups, Liz. I look at the girls I've tried to hook up with and to be honest, none would have worked out. Not because of my over-analyzation, but due to the fact that I don't see myself with that person and not only that I just don't feel I need to win anyone's affection over again. I did that to get with Miriam. I don't need to go through that again. The right person's out there, I just haven't met them yet.