Baby blues

[cataroo]

I'm not going to lie, being a new parent is hard. Being a new parent with two babies? I'm not quite sure how I manage to cope at times. Thank goodness my mom is here, because otherwise I wouldn't eat, there would be no clean clothes and I would probably be curled up in the fetal position sobbing while two twin infants howled in the background.

But

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Cat! I love you so much!!! I can't make it better or easier, but i'm here and I love you!

Well, crap.

[starieskie]

Seriously, Cat, I'm so sorry. Please know you have friends anxiously wanting to help and be there, right now, this second, every day.

I'm pretty boring and do nothing after work. Let me know if you need anything. I am great at doing errands and cleaning (just ask Nick!). :) You may just find me at your doorstep one night; you can take what's in my hands and say come in/good bye/I need a hug/did you also bring ice cream/please paint my nails/hold this baby-babies.

Number one thing I am learning from all my anxiety fixing sessions is to have compassion for yourself. Shit just got real, but you aren't alone... so holler at a sister. :)

nevertheend.

[kbrady]

I want to give you mad props/kudos for facing these feelings head on. Two things I learned in grad school that seem to be applying very well to this new mom thing for me:

1) Be kind to yourself (goes with what Christie said!)

2) There is power and release in naming feelings. I use the frame "I feel ____ when/because ____." The point isn't to negate or solve or argue out of feelings, but simply to name them. For example, "I feel regret for my poor life choices when I think about how much money I wasted on grad school."

Hope you're hanging in there! Remember there are a whole slew of us going through this together and chances are at least one of us is awake when you are :)