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Dearly Departed Quibbles

May 26, 2010 17:52

Sooo. No sooner had I commented on the last post but a question popped into my head. Last year my mother-in-law's cat passed away. He was cremated and put in a little jar, which my MIL wanted to keep on the mantle. My brother-in-law, who is squeamish as hell on the subject of death anyways, thought this was unbearably creepy and wanted the cat in ( Read more... )

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sacramentalist May 26 2010, 21:25:04 UTC

Depends on the people and how important these things are, emotionally. I don't know if it matters who the primary caregiver is or who pays the bills.

To me, the fear of death is a little unreasonable. And having an urn on display is tacky. Keeping it nearby is a great compromise. YMMV

Stuffing creeps me out, though. But again, that is just me. If my SO wanted a former pet stuffed, I would have to take her emotional needs into consideration over the potential nightmares.

originalwacky May 27 2010, 17:23:24 UTC

I think this is one of those case by case things, and depends a lot on the people involved. I'm pretty easy-going on this kinda stuff, so I'm likely to defer to The Mate with regards to our critters, but that's easy to say, since I know he's got similar opinions to mine ( ... )

ms_hecubus May 27 2010, 17:40:59 UTC

I'm the one with my husband's cat's head in the freezer because he wants to preserve it. I wouldn't have done that. I have no interest at all in keeping physical remains, but he does. Obviously I let him choose because to him it matters.

I guess I'd leave it up to the person with the strongest feelings on the matter.

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moustachios May 28 2010, 11:39:17 UTC

She does.

She also was the primary caregiver and paid the bills, although they were about equally upset, and about equally horrified at the other person's plans.

juel1979 June 9 2010, 01:34:48 UTC

I hate to say it, but when it comes to our dogs, I win. I've had the eldest the longest (she's been with me since I was 18). If it was just cremation versus burying, I'd say cremation should win out, cause if you put a pet in the ground, then move, it'd be traumatizing by either exhuming or leaving the pet behind. That's one of the major reasons I plan cremation for our three. I've had pets that meant a lot to me as a kid that I have no idea where they are on the property. =(