Comments | catness: Things We Can't Talk About: A Short List

catness

Things We Can't Talk About: A Short List

Mar 20, 2012 11:14

1. Your ineptitude.
ETA: If inclined, please share your short list of Things We Can't Talk About in comments. also_huey did, and that was awesome.

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also_huey March 20 2012, 15:41:55 UTC

Oooh, can I play too? Put me down for "Your dishonesty".

Once I start to find out how many times somebody has lied to me, I'm not sure I see the point to having a conversation with 'em. It's just mouth-noises bereft of meaning.

catness March 20 2012, 15:45:44 UTC

I like the participatory nature of this comment.

And yeah, talking about someone's dishonesty or game playing is a lose-lose situation. I have a drummer like that.

c1 March 20 2012, 16:52:56 UTC

Did you hear Ira Glass last weekend? Hoo-boy, that was the object lesson in what happens to your credibility when you're dishonest.

I can play too drwex March 20 2012, 16:15:10 UTC

Your attitude at work, particularly with respect to your coworkers.

Re: I can play too c1 March 20 2012, 16:51:45 UTC

I actually think that's something that needs to be talked about. Huge amount of diplomacy needed, for sure, but shutting the door on communication on that one never worked for me.

Re: I can play too drwex March 20 2012, 17:03:42 UTC

I find it can be done by a superior or a non-involved person like HR but coworker-to-coworker has never worked for me.

Re: I can play too c1 March 20 2012, 17:07:45 UTC

It's doable, but yes, not every time. Usually, it involves taking that person to lunch (you're not a bad person, because you're feeding them, right?) or some such gesture, preceded by some measure of working up to that moment.
Though he ultimately reverted to his old ways, for several weeks, my well known former employer was much more human when I started bringing in cookies on Wednesdays.

tisiphone March 20 2012, 17:30:21 UTC

Ooh, I want to play!

3) Your selfishness.

sadly more common with my friends than I'd like carneggy March 20 2012, 19:00:20 UTC

1) How unhealthy-for-you-mentally your romantic partner(s) is.

rmd March 20 2012, 19:24:40 UTC

Your not-nearly-subtle-enough disapproval of, and lack of respect for, my relationship.

ETA: which is to say, I don't care if you disapprove or don't respect it, but I don't want to fucking hear about it, verbally or nonverbally, if so.