How to be okay after all

[catsfiction]

Just been looking over a few old posts and I realised that about a year ago we were going through a very bad time with our son. It's probably time for an update, because I got a lot of support from flist people at the time

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[susanb03]

Thanks so much for the update. I had wondered how things were going with you. Thank YOU for being so supportive this summer and adding your fic to the 'zine for my husband.

Susan

[wendymr]

I'm really glad to see this update, and how marvellous that you now know what the problem is! It's wonderful, too, that it's manageable with medication.

In the circumstances, I think it's a very good thing that he's not going to Cambridge. As you know, the Oxbridge system is very much sink or swim, whereas it will be noticed at another university if he isn't attending classes - especially if it's a small Philosophy department. When he does go, make sure the warden of his hall of residence, as well as the undergraduate director in his department, know about his condition and signs to look for. They can only call you in an emergency (legally he'll be an adult), but if they have concerns they'll talk to him.

[shinyopals]

*SQUISHES*

I am so glad for him.

Also, just as a bit of feedback on unis: my sister is at Essex and she loves it to bits. Although that does sound like a heck of a distance to cost that much!

[catsfiction]

Thanks!

It's not so much the distance that's the issue as the fact that we have to be there by mid-morning. So we either stay in a hotel the night before (not a lot cheaper) or we travel to London at the most expensive time of day. Anyway, just bought him a railcard, which hopefully will help a bit.

Sometimes I wish we had a TARDIS!

[achuislemochroi]

I remember reading your earlier post about your son and I am so glad to hear that he has a diagnosis and that there’s treatment available that works.

Everything I’ve heard and read about Oxbridge supports what wendymr says, so maybe in some ways it is best he goes somewhere else. I wish him better luck than I had at university (not difficult!)

Re: You keep hope alive, too!

[catsfiction]

I'm really happy if it encouraged you. This time last year our family was in a dark place with little hope on the horizon. We aren't out of the woods yet, but there's a glimmer of sunlight.

Nothing wears you down as much as chronic sleeplessness, and it's one of those conditions often dismissed as trivial by those who haven't suffered anything worse than a rough night and work next morning. I expect you've already looked into all the options, but over here surgery is quite frequently recommended for apnea. The thought of waking up unable to breathe is enough to stop anyone dropping off peacefully.