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[ccjohn]

I am pleased to note one woman friend of mine, got it right about the deluded maniac who shot people in Santa Barbara CA. She felt bad for him, expressed the wish he'd gone to a prostitute. I don't think that would have worked, that was not what he was after (from what I've read), but the reaction of the rest of America is scary. I sat in a bar

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[fengi]

Where is your sympathy for the women and men that he murdered? For the sorority girls he planned to slaughter had he been able to get inside their house? To the roommates he carved up, who had, in fact treated him like a human being. Why are you unable to put yourself in their shoes, feel empathy for them? Why are you so often writing passionately on the side of the resentful angry rich guy who does harm

[ccjohn]

I've written several thousand words, trying to reply to this. The man was mentally ill. I'd hoped my sympathy for the victims was obvious as the basis for writing about this at all.

I've been curious since Columbine about what creates these people and these incidents. I wind up with Durkheim and concepts like anomie. For a man so obsessed with rejection by women, he offered few or no specifics about how he'd been rejected, presumably these earlier women had names. He gave no details. I hate California girls, they don't want me, they prefer stupid brutes --he spoke in commercial imagery. Like all unhappy Americans, he had recourse to groups of the like-minded, except any validation of his unhappiness was instantly buried in shared rage. The groups he joined all shared one particular attitude: "we have had privation, bullying and abuse involuntarily forced on us by larger social forces and their arbitrary, self-serving behavior." Except how can any group, be of real help in improving or solving what is an individual problem

[ccjohn]

Sorry this was late. I've had real trouble typing, past four weeks but am in the middle of treatment for it.

[ccjohn]

The guy was mentally ill. What he did was sick and evil. His victims, were people living their lives, hurting no one. He hated women. He generalized from his experiences with some women, to all women conspicuously omitting the set of women he'd never met who might possibly have taken a shine to him.

Yes. I think I hear your point, and I'll plead guilty. I've had many problems with women. I'm often unhappy about women and write about it here. This is not the same as being certain I am owed sex. Sex is not that difficult to get. I don't even mean purchasing it, I mean practically any guy I've ever met can go into a New York City bar any night and get laid if he wants. This maniac's ostensible main gripe with women I don't find at all credible. His sneers at the cops and his apparently well-meaning parents, and the money he blew on shrinks speak for themselves. "There are tons of lonely people ... but most of them do NOT feel so entitled to sex that they blame others for not giving it, they do NOT believe others should