Good luck this week, I just went on a walk so at least I could get some physical activity today, I really need to kickass this week because I did so badly this week and last
It sounds like your problem isn't that you're "over-weight". The problem is is that you don't love yourself. And if you don't love yourself it doesn't matter how many times you make an attempt to become healthier, or lose weight, because you aren't doing it for the right reasons. You certainly are too hard on yourself. It doesn't matter that you've been "over-weight" since you were eight. The truth of the matter is is that you didn't have the tools and resources to stick to a plan and lose weight the right way. You can't expect a 13 year old child to understand what they need to do in order to love themself. Your expectations of yourself are high. Probably too high. Work out because you want to make a lifestyle change. Because you want to love yourself and feel good. Not because you want to avoid being "fat". Love yourself for who you are no matter your size or your motivation and just know that there is room for improvement. And with that pressure taken off, you'll probably find it easier to stick to your plans.
thanks for misunderstanding. I never once put myself down about my actual weight or said anything about what my reasons for losing weight are. I love myself, I do not love the fact that I'm unhealthy. What right do you think you have to tell me I'm doing it for the wrong reasons? There is absolutely nothing in here stating reasons
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ok, my apologies. things can be interpreted in more than one way, especially over the internet. i certainly read it, just received it differently than you intentioned.
I completely understand where you're coming from...realizing when I was overweight at 13 (or there abouts) and not really buckling down until now. It's okay that you haven't given it your full attention....you're 20 and you have a life to live. What matters is what you do now and it sounds like you're motivated. What has happened in the past is the past. Yes, I know it's changed you, but TRY not to dwell on it (though I KNOW how hard that can be). Forget the failures and just concentrate this time. You can do it! And remember, you don't have to work your ass off...even going for a walk will make a difference. Any movement is better than none, right? Stay motivated, and I'm here if you need anything.
Thanks for your comment, it was very comforting to know that you understand... and you are right. I need to look forward instead of at the past.
Yeah, I agree - even a walk is a big difference, thats why I'm so upset is the fact that sometimes I do absolutely nothing - not even go walking! or stretch! and I've got basically all day every day to do whatever I want. Thats why I feel I should be a little harder on myself.
Do you mind if I add you once I get onto lj again? :)
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Heres to both of us doing wonderfully :)
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Yeah, I agree - even a walk is a big difference, thats why I'm so upset is the fact that sometimes I do absolutely nothing - not even go walking! or stretch! and I've got basically all day every day to do whatever I want. Thats why I feel I should be a little harder on myself.
Do you mind if I add you once I get onto lj again? :)
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