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ceiphiedknight

Second Chance Idol :: Week Two :: High Wire Act

Feb 23, 2012 19:41

I wanna end all this suffering
I do believe a second chance is coming
Love is a high wire act
Got to be an acrobat
And I know you can still be that... - Don't Look Down, BBMak ( Read more... )

Comments 11

bewize February 24 2012, 04:06:13 UTC

Good luck as you search for balance.

yuniebaby February 24 2012, 05:12:43 UTC

My husband and I are in a similar boat. We both want kids, but we are still really enjoying sleeping in and travelling and just being us. I keep expecting to have an "okay it's time" moment, but it hasn't come yet . . .

ceiphiedknight February 24 2012, 12:06:39 UTC

Yeah, I keep expected some sort of epiphany, but it hasn't happened yet. It's weird to see one of my best friends, who has ALWAYS known she wanted to be a mom, pregnant with her first child. But it's also good in the way that I get a first hand look at pregnancy and what it's like. And then when the baby comes, I should have plenty of time to get to know him and see what's up with raising a baby. Her pregnancy has actually been a really good experience for me, lol!

ainslye February 27 2012, 04:46:54 UTC

I feel the need to peek in and say, in my experience, there is no epiphany. There is no choir of angels singing "Now is the time! Now is the time!"

For me, it was more like I knew I wanted to be a parent at some point, and I knew I wasn't getting any younger. I knew I wanted more than one kid, and when I did the math, I didn't want to be really old when said kid was in high school, so it just made sense to...uh... get started on that.

It also helped that my husband and I had what we called the Three Year Contract. No babies, no talking about babies, nothing, for that time after we got married. Just us, being selfish, sleeping a lot, taking random trips out of state in the middle of the night, going out of the country without consulting anyone, etc.

It's different for everyone, though. For some people, it is like a switch going off and the biological clock starts freaking out, I guess.

Either way, there is no wrong answer. But man, if you might want a baby in the future, sleep while you can! LOL!

Ok, I'll go back to lurking, now.

gingergirlslove February 24 2012, 05:19:47 UTC

This is a very good introspection. Your desires are very understandable:

"But I think I'm still too selfish. I enjoy spending time with my husband and our pets. I enjoy being able to pick up and take off to another state if we feel like it. I also really enjoy sleep. Like, a lot."

I have heard people say these are some of the things that are less available to a parent upon becoming a parent. You do sound like you would be a wonderful mom, though. You sound like someone who would truly incorporate their child into their lives, and make room for it, rather than just feeding it or begrudging its unplanned for existence. I think you are right...you will find the balance when it is time.

whipchick February 24 2012, 09:13:47 UTC

I love that you yell at other people's kids :)

ceiphiedknight February 24 2012, 12:09:21 UTC

Well, I live in an apartment, so it's almost a prerequisite. "DON'T PLAY BALL AROUND THE CARS!" "STOP YELLING IN THE HALLWAY!" "MOVE THESE TOYS OFF THE STAIRS!"

The sad part is, I would never let my own child be so obnoxious an inconsiderate as the kids in this building.

pixiebelle February 24 2012, 23:57:38 UTC

Oh I get this. I know I'd make a great mom, and it was one of those things I just assumed I'd do in my life because I love kids. Until now. It's likely not in the cards for me and finding that balance between what I want and what I know is right is hard sometimes....

I totally get this.