Weddings

[aeryn]

I'm invited to a wedding in June and I don't know what to do about the food... Do I tell the bride not to put me down for a dish? Or ask what alternatives could be served? I obviously don't want her to try to figure out what ONE person can eat, but at the same time I feel really awkward sitting there not eating... And I don't want them to

Comments

[hnybny]

You have to say something. You don't want to have the family use the "if you'd said something earlier" excuse on you.

[spaceprostitute]

Just be honest. If you want to, phrase more that you're trying to put her budget into consideration

[honeybrown]

This. I always ask if its possible and offer to figure it out on my own if its an issue. Be prepared if they can accommodate you for it to be plain grilled chicken and steam carrots ;)

[ldygrinningsoul]

Yup, I think this is spot on as well.

[leecetheartist]

Good advice above, but in addition, ask if there are other coeliacs attending - it may turn out that you are not the only one.

[snuck]

When I got married I sent out invites to 35 people, and two declined. And then they found out the entire menu was gluten free and suddenly changed their mind to come. Turns out they are gluten free also and I had no idea.

You'd be surprised how many of us there are out there!

[becala]

I think you should definitely speak up but with the *hope*, not the *expectation* that they can accommodate you. People have varying degrees of stress about their wedding planning, and depending on who they already chose for catering, it may not work for them to prep anything gluten free. But you should definitely at least let them know and see if there's a possibility. I'm sure they don't *want* you to starve/have to bring your own food, but if you show them you are willing to bring your own food it will be meaningful to them that you are being considerate and flexible.

I have more than gluten intolerance going on so I gave up on anyone being able to accommodate me years ago. I just bring my own food and I don't really care if I stick out like a sore thumb. I just tell them I'm on the anti-anaphylaxis diet if they ask.

[catling42]

I usually mention something and offer to speak directly to their caterer (just have the details of the wedding--date, location, couple's names)