I agree with the first three, but I certainly do NOT agree with what you have to say about honor. Until you are raised in a culture upon with honor is your very breath, you do not understand what it means to be ashamed!
To you, it seems wrong. To me, it is natural. That makes sense. To me, I understand the family, and do not blame them for their decision. She broke a vow, she shamed her family, she should not be spoken to. She has taken everything her parents gave to her and shoved it in their faces, spit on them, and walked away.
In Japan, we have honor. It is changing, it is less strict now, but it is there. But, if this were Japan, and I were that wife, I would be terrified of doing something wrong to offend my husband. Because now everything rests on him. My husband's word is law, and I have to obey. Any and all honor possibly left rests on how pleased he is with me, and if he still loves me despite everything. If I displeased him, I would have to kill myself. It is the only natural solution. I am shamed by my family, I am
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interesting. but i wonder, if we value love so highly, if it is truly so "built-in," why are we all so bad at it? i mean, perhaps someone else planted the garden, but it seems to me that if we do not put in hard work and sweat and tears then hate is likely to spring up in us like weeds. you ask why it is so hard to love instead of hate. i think it's because hate is easier. it requires less effort, and less giving. love endures all things. think about that. all things. hate need not endure anything. it can lock itself inside, cut off from pain.
i think it might just be that simple. hate is easier. and human beings tend, like much else, to take the path of least resistance. we choose hate over love because it's easier. it happens every day.
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To you, it seems wrong. To me, it is natural. That makes sense. To me, I understand the family, and do not blame them for their decision. She broke a vow, she shamed her family, she should not be spoken to. She has taken everything her parents gave to her and shoved it in their faces, spit on them, and walked away.
In Japan, we have honor. It is changing, it is less strict now, but it is there. But, if this were Japan, and I were that wife, I would be terrified of doing something wrong to offend my husband. Because now everything rests on him. My husband's word is law, and I have to obey. Any and all honor possibly left rests on how pleased he is with me, and if he still loves me despite everything. If I displeased him, I would have to kill myself. It is the only natural solution. I am shamed by my family, I am ( ... )
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*walks away, head down*
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i think it might just be that simple. hate is easier. and human beings tend, like much else, to take the path of least resistance. we choose hate over love because it's easier. it happens every day.
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