Rumours, pack mentality,and sitting on the fence...
Yup a public post,,,
This isn’t about specifics, let me just make that clear now. I don't care much for who said what to whom and when or why. I have had time to think whether it is such a good thing I don’t know. Actually that’s not accurate. It has given me time to crystallize some thoughts that I have been mulling for some time.
This is about me being fed up of a pack mentality that is prevalent at the best of times, but is definitely prevalent. If your face fits then hurrah! But watch it if it doesn’t, because if you don’t, then you are suddenly the worlds's worst in life. From flavour of the month to garbage in one easy move.
My question is this. Why do people find it so hard, so difficult, to make up their own minds about others? Why is rumour, especially of the derogatory type, so much more appealing than having the strength of mind and confidence of self enough to say “actually, I don’t agree?” Or “I haven’t met this person yet and so can’t judge".
I've made my share of mistakes. I’ve also had to sort out what I believe to be gossip from what I believe to be true, at times. And sometimes, no matter what, it is easy to put down truth as gossip and vice versa, especially if it’s not pleasant. Which is one reason to be as sure of yourself as possible before engaging the mouth, which again, I have tried to do. But I don’t think that I have ever trashed someone just because I could, just for the hell of it. Why do people do that?
My friends are my friends and will remain so. On here,on msn, yahoo, email, in passing whatever..whether they are online and I have never met them, if I've only met them briefly and if I can have their company in small doses. We are all different, the world will be pretty bloody boring if we all agreed and were the same.
If that means that I have friends that others distrust for whatever reason then so be it. But I'm not going to read things in journal or repeat things in conversations, about what I have talked and read about. I don't like mind games etc and don't play them with others. I would like to think I am a person worthy of a little trust and faith.
And I will like who I like, end of. And if I fuck up, which I have done and then some in the past, then at least the only person to take the rap for that is ME! And if I don't want to get involved then I will sit on my fence and talk to all parties involved and not use one to play off against another... That involves lying and I am such a crap liar.
There are people that I don’t get on with, as is the same with all of us in this world.
One thing I try not to do is to advertise it though. I might dislike them. Why should mine be the sole validity of one person's actions..
And yes, I realise that this makes me look like an arsey so and so, but I’d rather be known as that than a spineless gullible thing that relied on someone else to make my mind up for me.
You heard a rumour? Ask the source, the original parties concerned and make your mind up from that. I do wonder if daring to make up one’s own mind is the eighth deadly sin, and that makes me sad. I know how I will try to raise my daughter - to be a better person than I am and to have the courage of her own convictions and the strength to formulate her own opinion even if it’s not a popular one.
This isn’t about specifics, let me just make that clear now. I don't care much for who said what to whom and when or why. I have had time to think whether it is such a good thing I don’t know. Actually that’s not accurate. It has given me time to crystallize some thoughts that I have been mulling for some time.
This is about me being fed up of a pack mentality that is prevalent at the best of times, but is definitely prevalent. If your face fits then hurrah! But watch it if it doesn’t, because if you don’t, then you are suddenly the worlds's worst in life. From flavour of the month to garbage in one easy move.
My question is this. Why do people find it so hard, so difficult, to make up their own minds about others? Why is rumour, especially of the derogatory type, so much more appealing than having the strength of mind and confidence of self enough to say “actually, I don’t agree?” Or “I haven’t met this person yet and so can’t judge".
I've made my share of mistakes. I’ve also had to sort out what I believe to be gossip from what I believe to be true, at times. And sometimes, no matter what, it is easy to put down truth as gossip and vice versa, especially if it’s not pleasant. Which is one reason to be as sure of yourself as possible before engaging the mouth, which again, I have tried to do. But I don’t think that I have ever trashed someone just because I could, just for the hell of it. Why do people do that?
My friends are my friends and will remain so. On here,on msn, yahoo, email, in passing whatever..whether they are online and I have never met them, if I've only met them briefly and if I can have their company in small doses. We are all different, the world will be pretty bloody boring if we all agreed and were the same.
If that means that I have friends that others distrust for whatever reason then so be it. But I'm not going to read things in journal or repeat things in conversations, about what I have talked and read about. I don't like mind games etc and don't play them with others. I would like to think I am a person worthy of a little trust and faith.
And I will like who I like, end of. And if I fuck up, which I have done and then some in the past, then at least the only person to take the rap for that is ME! And if I don't want to get involved then I will sit on my fence and talk to all parties involved and not use one to play off against another... That involves lying and I am such a crap liar.
There are people that I don’t get on with, as is the same with all of us in this world.
One thing I try not to do is to advertise it though. I might dislike them. Why should mine be the sole validity of one person's actions..
And yes, I realise that this makes me look like an arsey so and so, but I’d rather be known as that than a spineless gullible thing that relied on someone else to make my mind up for me.
You heard a rumour? Ask the source, the original parties concerned and make your mind up from that. I do wonder if daring to make up one’s own mind is the eighth deadly sin, and that makes me sad. I know how I will try to raise my daughter - to be a better person than I am and to have the courage of her own convictions and the strength to formulate her own opinion even if it’s not a popular one.