Random Helping #96: Fat, I am not. PHAT, I am. :)
Earlier today, a guy told me that I "should lose weight" so that I can "look slim and pretty like the SNSD girls".
Worse still, that guy happens to be a friend of mine. And I felt quite hurt by what he said.
So, am I just being overly sensitive or... did his jokes got a tad bit too far?
We hung out for the first time today; along with Sam, a dear college buddy of mine. The guy, who I will refer as D from here on out, has been asking me to hang out with him more than 4 times before but I kept declined because I was terribly busy with my assignments, presentations, pop quizzes, tests, blah blah blah. (God knows how thankful I am for declining his invites all this time; after finding out what he's really like) So, we decided to watch a movie. But I told him that if the only available showtime starts later than 2, I would need to pass because I have to hitch a cab home by 4.30; for the fear of traffic congestion.
As it turns out, the only available showtime for Alice in Wonderland was at 4 p.m. So, of course I declined. Instead, we decided to look around for any possible places to grab a bite. That's when the "incidents" happened. He had been dropping hints how "heavy" I am more than once today. And it totally got on my nerves. Fine, I get it already. I'm heavy. I'm fat. Do you have to remind me every 10 to 15 minutes?
Incident 1:
We were looking for a place to eat and we passed by Krispy Kreme on our way. D commented how Big Apple doughnuts are more delicious than Krispy Kreme's. I replied, "Oh, I love Big Apple doughnuts! I think they're really good, too!" to which he responded with, "Oh, is that why you had gotten so big?" while making a gesture; along with a burst of laughter.
I was hurt. Well, slightly. I was called even worse when I was little, so this shouldn't bother me so much. Right? I did try to not let it get to me.
Incident 2:
We settled at The Chicken Rice Shop for our lunch. When we had finished ordering our food, we chatted while we waited for our food to arrive. We were talking about music and he mentioned how much he was in love with SNSD.
And then that's when it started. "Eh you know, Sarah, if you go slim and lose weight, you will look slim and pretty leh. Like these SNSD girls," he commented. I rolled my eyes and whacked him with the menu. Geez. As if I don't understand that. I don't need the extra reminder.
Incident 3:
Occurred when our food had arrived. I was drinking my soup when again, another tease popped out of his mouth. "Eh, why are you only drinking soup? Don't hold back, Sarah. Just eat the way you usually do, you know, *gobble gobble gobble*?" he laughed.
He had never seen me eat before so how can he make such rude assumptions about me like that? Fine, I get it, it was meant as a joke. But after what he said 10 minutes earlier? I was starting to get sick of his idea of a joke.
When we had finished our meals, we went for bowling. As much as I was having fun, I was dreading the moment he would come up with another "smart-ass" joke of his. I couldn't be anymore grateful that Sam was there to accompany me, as well as the fact that none of D's friends turned up (his friends were supposed to tag along but had to cancel because they received a last-minute call to their part-time jobs). I mean, imagine if his friends were there too. I would've been publicly humiliated. I mean, once is fine by me. But 3 times in a row? Pfft.
I made a vow that the next time I hang out with him will be when my weight is at least 48kg. Otherwise, I might as well just stick with my friends who can really accept me for who I really am; warts and all.
Like that quote by Mo'Nique from that movie, 'Phat Girls': "I ain't fat, I'm sexy succulent!"
8D
Cerra: Shukudai-kun has finally ended, hasn't it? TT^TT I'm going to watch the RAW; with a box of tissues by my side!
Worse still, that guy happens to be a friend of mine. And I felt quite hurt by what he said.
So, am I just being overly sensitive or... did his jokes got a tad bit too far?
We hung out for the first time today; along with Sam, a dear college buddy of mine. The guy, who I will refer as D from here on out, has been asking me to hang out with him more than 4 times before but I kept declined because I was terribly busy with my assignments, presentations, pop quizzes, tests, blah blah blah. (God knows how thankful I am for declining his invites all this time; after finding out what he's really like) So, we decided to watch a movie. But I told him that if the only available showtime starts later than 2, I would need to pass because I have to hitch a cab home by 4.30; for the fear of traffic congestion.
As it turns out, the only available showtime for Alice in Wonderland was at 4 p.m. So, of course I declined. Instead, we decided to look around for any possible places to grab a bite. That's when the "incidents" happened. He had been dropping hints how "heavy" I am more than once today. And it totally got on my nerves. Fine, I get it already. I'm heavy. I'm fat. Do you have to remind me every 10 to 15 minutes?
Incident 1:
We were looking for a place to eat and we passed by Krispy Kreme on our way. D commented how Big Apple doughnuts are more delicious than Krispy Kreme's. I replied, "Oh, I love Big Apple doughnuts! I think they're really good, too!" to which he responded with, "Oh, is that why you had gotten so big?" while making a gesture; along with a burst of laughter.
I was hurt. Well, slightly. I was called even worse when I was little, so this shouldn't bother me so much. Right? I did try to not let it get to me.
Incident 2:
We settled at The Chicken Rice Shop for our lunch. When we had finished ordering our food, we chatted while we waited for our food to arrive. We were talking about music and he mentioned how much he was in love with SNSD.
And then that's when it started. "Eh you know, Sarah, if you go slim and lose weight, you will look slim and pretty leh. Like these SNSD girls," he commented. I rolled my eyes and whacked him with the menu. Geez. As if I don't understand that. I don't need the extra reminder.
Incident 3:
Occurred when our food had arrived. I was drinking my soup when again, another tease popped out of his mouth. "Eh, why are you only drinking soup? Don't hold back, Sarah. Just eat the way you usually do, you know, *gobble gobble gobble*?" he laughed.
He had never seen me eat before so how can he make such rude assumptions about me like that? Fine, I get it, it was meant as a joke. But after what he said 10 minutes earlier? I was starting to get sick of his idea of a joke.
When we had finished our meals, we went for bowling. As much as I was having fun, I was dreading the moment he would come up with another "smart-ass" joke of his. I couldn't be anymore grateful that Sam was there to accompany me, as well as the fact that none of D's friends turned up (his friends were supposed to tag along but had to cancel because they received a last-minute call to their part-time jobs). I mean, imagine if his friends were there too. I would've been publicly humiliated. I mean, once is fine by me. But 3 times in a row? Pfft.
I made a vow that the next time I hang out with him will be when my weight is at least 48kg. Otherwise, I might as well just stick with my friends who can really accept me for who I really am; warts and all.
Like that quote by Mo'Nique from that movie, 'Phat Girls': "I ain't fat, I'm sexy succulent!"
8D
Cerra: Shukudai-kun has finally ended, hasn't it? TT^TT I'm going to watch the RAW; with a box of tissues by my side!