Bloody hell. Not only did she catch me off guard by calling me at work, she called during my lunch and I didn't get to complete the whole meal. BLARG
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This she still finds the need to understand sounds like me....
I am sorry you are going through this -- tough times for me, too.
I am trying to understand because information has come to me in pieces, and I do need to know if he really just wants to live separate or completely end it.
Sometimes, it isn't a matter of understanding but of acceptance. One of the things that I discussed with the AnamCara wasn't that I was looking to be understood but that I was just accepted. I spent a long time doing my best to sort out my feelings and my actions and I told her all this. But in response (both in writing and in the phone call), I was told that she felt the need to "understand." Nothing I can say or do will ever convey the understanding of myself (in which it took me a year and a half to completely understand the feelings that I was having) in the time frame that she is looking at (which is almost immediately).
Don't give up.....on yourself or him. Trust in your Higher Power. But also, take care of yourself in the meantime.
Wow....sounds like the same situation....he had been thinking about his feelings for a long time before he told me about them --- which really hurts, actually -- because I always wanted open communication -- I wanted to know when he *started* feeling unsure...not later....I feel sideswiped -- it feels immediate and sudden to me too.
Except, I am not sure he knows how he feels - I think it may be that is unsure. And that is the issue.
I am working on giving up the understanding part. I have accepted what he wants - to live separate and be together. And we shall. And go from there. As painful at it may be.
I'm sorry you two are still going through this. I've shared my thoughts on this before. Sometimes, even with all the talking, people can never get on the same page, no matter how much they talk. And translators can be good, can be helpful...but do you want one your entire life, if the two of you can't find the common vocabulary? Love is rarely enough. If it gets too bad, you know how to reach me if a venting place is needed. click or call..
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I am sorry you are going through this -- tough times for me, too.
I am trying to understand because information has come to me in pieces, and I do need to know if he really just wants to live separate or completely end it.
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Don't give up.....on yourself or him. Trust in your Higher Power. But also, take care of yourself in the meantime.
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Except, I am not sure he knows how he feels - I think it may be that is unsure. And that is the issue.
I am working on giving up the understanding part. I have accepted what he wants - to live separate and be together. And we shall. And go from there. As painful at it may be.
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if it gets bad again, remember "Mr. Click" is your *friend*.
yes, run. like Hel. and then some.
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