In laws and gossip

[chaichilaquiles]

To those that responded to my last entry, I responded back. Ive noticed that LJ is delaying in comments reaching inboxes, I had to go to my post to find yours as I still haven't gotten them in my email

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[hashishinahooka]

I know what I'm going to say doesn't help, but I feel it is something everyone has to internalize at some point: Who gives a fuck? People talk shit behind people's backs. You have no control over it. You also have no control over how people view you. Confronting them is not going to change it. Ignoring it isn't going to change it. Either option you choose is going to have the same result. They will continue to view you pretty much the same way they did before. If you confront them, their view may be worse.

Do what you can to remain sane until you don't have to deal with them anymore, but until then, just keep asking yourself why you care what they think of you. Eventually, you'll run out of reasons to care or start to see that your reasons for caring are shallow.

[chaichilaquiles]

thanks, it does help. I'll have to think more on it though.

[sblmnldrknss]

This is why I hate the idea of leaving near family, or especially living with family or very close in proximity. It's better to keep some distance so people aren't in everyone's business on a day to day basis. Our relationships with my parents and Fawad's parents have been SO much better since we moved to Georgia and left them in Virginia. There's been a couple of bumps, but they've been during visits.... so when we're in the same place at the same time.

I don't know what to tell you. I don't think that flipping out at them is going to change anything. You can do it if you want to, but I think it's more likely to cause problems than to resolve them. And the last thing you need is to make any of the situations worse.