My Mom's Last Mother's Day At Home

[chaliren]

My mom was diagnosed with dementia about 6 or 7 years ago. My dad took over the household duties that she could no longer perform - cooking, cleaning, running errands. In the last few years he's had to help her bathe and dress

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Same with Father-in-law

[anonymous]

I had the privilege of taking care of my husband's parents when they both went into a care facility. Hubby's Mom had her facilities but was afraid to talk about her husband's dementia to me. Too bad his sister didn't tell me about it or we would have found the other facility sooner. When Dad went into the lockdown facility he didn't last 3 months before dying of a heart attack on the way to breakfast one morning. Mom lasted another 3 years before her cancer finally got her. I wouldn't have missed one minute of all the times I spent with them. I'd get calls at 2:30am from the care facility that they needed me to settle a fight they were having. By the time I'd get over there he couldn't remember why I came over. It's heart wrenching on the spouse without the dementia because of all their loving memories of better times. Encourage your Dad to have at least one meal with her if not daily then a couple of times a week. Don't let him sink into depression over feeling guilty either. We all need help from others at times.
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