Nothing more boring than to be always agreed with

[chameleon_irony]

I assumed this was common sense, but now I'm not sure there even is such a thing as "common" sense. After several misunderstandings, I've decided to stop assuming. I want to make a few things clear.

There are people who have "don't disagree with me on my turf" policies in their journals. I'm not one of them. I don't believe I can say anything I

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[sandspirit]

These are really good points! (Um, sorry for agreeing with you. *gg*)

I don't like conflicts at all, so I just take it as a given that I might be wrong on this or that. Of course, without a conflict, I don't usually know *which* of my views are more wrong than right and which - the other way around. But that's OK with me - I often like peace and tranquility more than knowledge. In any case, even not seeking conflicts I usually do find them, in various ways, and learn what might be wrong with my views anyway. Heh.

What I wanted to say, good luck! :)

[chameleon_irony]

Apology accepted ;)

In my opinion, conflicts are OK as long as everyone stays civil and there are no personal attacks. But it depends on my mood. Sometimes I'll walk away from a disagreement even if it means letting the other person think they won (something that's ridiculously hard for personalities like mine, I admit it).

Thank you. :)

[philstar22]

I mostly agree. I love debates, personally. And I'm fine with people disagreeing with me. The one thing I really would rather not have in my personal journal is prejudiced comments. Because that just makes me uncomfortable and angry to have it in my personal place. But anything else is fair game for people to disagree with me about.

And I agree with you about politicians. I can't imagine being surrounded by people who just agreed with me. That would be so boring. And miserable. I like a good, healthy disagreement. Hey, I'm going to be a lawyer. It is my personality.

[chameleon_irony]

I said as long as your position is based on substantial, rational arguments. Prejudice isn't. It's based on emotion and other things that don't stand up under rational scrutiny.

I can't imagine being surrounded by people who just agreed with me.

I can imagine it. In fact, I don't need to imagine - I remember. I don't know how I didn't go mad from boredom. Oh, wait, I sort of did, but I got out before the madness became permanent. I hope. ;)

Hey, I'm going to be a lawyer. It is my personality.

I could have said that too, and stopped there, but I went further in my reasoning, because I'm a psychology student who is going to be a lawyer. ;) A job where I can be myself... It's almost hard to imagine. Sounds much too good to be real.

[stormbringer986]

While I do think someone is entitled to post whatever they want to in their personal LJ, I think it's pretty stupid of them to tell their followers "You can't disagree with anything I post."

[chameleon_irony]

It's insecurity, I guess. When you're sure of yourself and your opinions are solid, you don't feel threatened when someone doesn't agree with you.

[lumy12]

Great last line! And, well, good points in the whole post, really. *joins the boring people agreeing with you*

I like being exposed to other viewpoints, I just don't care to debate things. I am the peacekeeper who can see both sides and doesn't want to pick one (usually). I also have a crap memory, which doesn't serve me well when trying to defend myself either >.>

And I think people absolutely should be mindful of what they say in their LJ. But people who disagree should be respectful if the person didn't post it in a comm somewhere LOOKING for feedback? If they have any Slytherin self-preservation skillz, though, they'd care about how they're perceived...

[chameleon_irony]

Being agreed with is flattering, actually. But always being agreed with is boring. And addictive, and makes people narcissistic and intolerant of criticism.

see both sides and doesn't want to pick one

You know, this happens to me quite often. I can see both sides, so how the hell am I supposed to pick one? Making decisions is hard work. I can't imagine being a judge. But arguing is so much fun, I do it sometimes even when I don't really believe what I'm saying. A lawyer isn't just my future job - it's my personality.

But people who disagree should be respectful if the person didn't post it in a comm somewhere LOOKING for feedback

They should be respectful even then... unless the person actually said "I want feedback and insults". Even on fanficrants, outright rudeness is a no-no. I never take the step into rudeness first, but sometimes, when insulted, I'll insult right back. I tend to choose counterattack over defense even when defense would be a better strategy. Too much Slytherin pride. ;)

[lumy12]

The only "real" debate I ever participated in was SO AWFUL, it scarred me for life! (I was a tender age) Yup, better to avoid conflict and confrontation.

Haha, "I want feedback and insults" -- yeahhhhh I didn't mean people should get to be fuckwits or anything if it's in a comm. But if people post controversial things in public places they should expect some dissent, and that maybe the other person won't care about sparing their feelings the way someone on their f-list might?

Ahhh, but then your Slytherin self-preservation should lead you to choose defense!