QUERY

[chantelli]

Today I come armed with a question. One I've been mulling over and really do require some resolution. So please, give this one a ponder and send your thoughts my way.

Would you continue doing something pleasurable and fulfilling if the most obvious end result would be something massive painful?

or simply put -

Would you keep doing something fun if

Comments

[anonymous]

I would guess that this question has to do with a relationship that you know won't last.I could of course be wrong. I just don't think anything can be as painful as breaking up. It can sometimes seem unbearable. I've been there myself many times.

To get to the question you asked, I don't believe this question can be answered with an absolute. There are too many circumstances that could change that answer. I think a better question would be is the amount of pleasure/fulfillment/fun you are getting worth the amount of pain that you know will come afterward.

With the idea of relationships still in mind I would say yes, it is worth the pain that comes afterward.

[chantelli]

Thank you for the response anonymous.

No, there are no absolutes either way. And no indication that it will end. But by nature when it comes to matters of the heart, I'm a great big coward.

History has not blessed me with happy endings, beginnings, or middles. Until now.

And every moment longer of happiness I have, I can't help but balance out the mental equation to equate how much pain would result when the object of my affection is gone.

Who are you anonymous? Do I know you or are you just the sweet voice of the internet lulling me into a peace and calm?

xoxo Chantelli

[anonymous]

No one is blessed with happy endings, beginnings, or middles till they find the "one". If they are ever lucky to find him/her.

Everyone has these fears at some point(I think). However, dwelling on what pain may come may potentially cause exactly what you're trying to prevent.If you think it's going to end, you may start acting colder to try and dullthe pain that you believe will come down the road. And your bf/gf may feel this coldnessand start doing the same, preparing for the worst.

I guess what I'm trying to say is these fears are normal(who wants something amazing to end right?) just don't let them consume you and effect you negatively.

And about who I am. well, you can think of me as an anonymous friend who rose through the ranks of Springfield police to become Chief Clancy Wig... ;)

Good luck to you :)

[chantelli]

Wiggins,

Again, no intention of calling anything off or hurting someone I love. More like... bracing for a bandaid to be pulled off. A bandaid that takes 8 months to take off. I finally found something to act like a Big Damn Hero and not run away like a little cowardly girl.

Okay - I must know you in non-cyberspace life. But the percentage of my friends who quote Simpsons is far too high for me to narrow this down. Lemme know and ease my curiousity! Not going to think of anything else today except my anonymous benefactor.

[anonymous]

I didn't mean it to sound as if you had any intention to call anything off. I'm just of the thought that if you dwell on it too much you may start behaving like it will happen and the behaviour will effect your significant other and then it'll just snowball out of control until your initial fears come true.

Haha, no, we aren't friends. I just stumbled in onto your journal(tripped actually, face planted right into your question, it was quite painful(I think I've completely misused the commas there(can you use parenthesis within parenthesis...within parenthesis?)))

hmmm

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