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I have this friend. Let's call this friend T. We're really close, and people call us best friends and some think we're going out and some think it'd be awesome if we did go out. We don't really have a label for our relationship and usually just laugh when people ask us, but we act pretty much like a couple - without the sexual couple stuff. We talk about pretty much everything, and we'll randomly hold hands and stuff. Our entire group of friends is in a sort of play-orgy, but we're the only two who hold hands and do stuff like bite a piece of chocolate while the other end is in the other's mouth and so on and so forth. I practically live at T's house and T's dad is my mom's former co-worker. Both of T's brothers also thought we were going out, and I have a sneaking suspicion my brother thinks the same.
Here's the thing. I don't know what my feelings for T are. I mean, I want to make T happy, but I want to make all my friends happy. But T's the first person I tell things. We cuddle, and it makes me happy. We've done it on multiple occasions, like when we were at the theaters watching Tron, and when we were at my house after going to the mall and watching Inception and 500 Days of Summer. For sure, I love T as a friend. I'm unsure about anything more.
Because of recent events, including Christmas and T's upcoming birthday, I've been teetering back and forth on the fence of whether or not I should ask T out. Several of my friends support it and say it'd be natural, and to be honest, nothing would change much about our relationship except for its label and that the couple-y stuff we do isn't just for fun anymore.
But I'm still really hesitant despite the support, mostly because I don't want to mess up our friendship should we not work out as a couple. It happened last time with Brian, and it took us months to get close to how it was, and by that time he graduated and things couldn't be the same. I know for a fact that T agrees with this. "It's too awkward." It's been our excuse for not getting together for 2 years.
At the same time, I kind of wouldn't mind taking the chance. I mean, I don't mind if we stay as we are, or if we become FWB, or if we get together. Any of those is fine with me, so long as we're still, first and foremost, friends.
So, f-list. Therein lies the question:
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Here's the thing. I don't know what my feelings for T are. I mean, I want to make T happy, but I want to make all my friends happy. But T's the first person I tell things. We cuddle, and it makes me happy. We've done it on multiple occasions, like when we were at the theaters watching Tron, and when we were at my house after going to the mall and watching Inception and 500 Days of Summer. For sure, I love T as a friend. I'm unsure about anything more.
Because of recent events, including Christmas and T's upcoming birthday, I've been teetering back and forth on the fence of whether or not I should ask T out. Several of my friends support it and say it'd be natural, and to be honest, nothing would change much about our relationship except for its label and that the couple-y stuff we do isn't just for fun anymore.
But I'm still really hesitant despite the support, mostly because I don't want to mess up our friendship should we not work out as a couple. It happened last time with Brian, and it took us months to get close to how it was, and by that time he graduated and things couldn't be the same. I know for a fact that T agrees with this. "It's too awkward." It's been our excuse for not getting together for 2 years.
At the same time, I kind of wouldn't mind taking the chance. I mean, I don't mind if we stay as we are, or if we become FWB, or if we get together. Any of those is fine with me, so long as we're still, first and foremost, friends.
So, f-list. Therein lies the question:
Poll