I hate to generalise and sound sexist but both the guys I have lived with do the exact same - my brother and my dad. My dad works full time and he doesn't do much around the house. He mows the lawn a lot in summer, and occasionally does work outside, but that's it, but at least he doesn't complain when the house is dirty. Neither does my brother, but he never does work unless you nag at him - and then he doesn't really argue with you for doing it. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that I do understand your rage (I have yelled at them so many times omg) but that your situation surpasses what I've had to put up with. I don't know many guys that keep things clean (I've heard they exist though) but those that don't are often those that see the same way as you described at the end. Whenever I yell at dad for sitting on his ass whenever he's home, he pulls the 'working full time card' -.-
I think that's my problem, I've never had to deal with men like this before. NEVER. My father was always on ME for not picking up after myself, he was very clean and he and I worked together to keep the house clean. He did his own laundry, cooked most of the meals, and on his free days he'd usually blare music and clean the whole apartment. He even laid a towel across the sink when he shaved so it caught all the hair and he could dump it in the trash! It was glorious! lol
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Ah, I wish my guys were like them! I definitely disagree with your mother, though on the whole I have found them a lot messier :/ Ah, if only we could make people like this see the error of their ways :P
Ugh, I'm sorry! That sounds so frustrating. I think people who don't do much cleaning don't really realize how much work it can be. It's like people who are stay-at-home parents, who get asked, "What do you DO all day?" as if there's not much work involved with taking care of children. *sigh*
I hope you can find a better living situation soon, this just sounds terrible :( Hugs <3
Yeah, I don't think he realizes that for me making the grocery list, doing laundry, cooking dinner, grocery shopping, sweeping, scrubbing, picking up the mess...that's tiring and sometimes I just don't want to do it. And when he get's home and I've swept of done dishes or laundry he doesn't even acknowledge it but if i haven't done these things it's a big deal. I hate it. But thank you. Actually I think I'm going to be with him for a long time but hopefully in a bigger place. Then at least I won't be at all responsible for his mess.
That is so frustrating :( It's so easy not to notice all the work that gets put into keeping the house clean! I know I can spend an hour a week on my single room in my house and you'd never know... but the weeks I don't spend cleaning it looks terrible. I'm sure a whole apartment (no matter how tiny) is even more time-consuming! Well, even if he doesn't, I appreciate all the hard work you do ;) Keep it up and maybe talk it out with him? I hope you're doing ok <3
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I hope you can find a better living situation soon, this just sounds terrible :( Hugs <3
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I hate it.
But thank you. Actually I think I'm going to be with him for a long time but hopefully in a bigger place. Then at least I won't be at all responsible for his mess.
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