Comments | chesh: Rings as talismen

chesh

Rings as talismen

Jan 13, 2009 10:18

There are definitely days when I can understand the whole "homosexual marriage threatens heterosexual marriage" deal. It's magical thinking, illogical but comforting. It needs to be awesome and special for the spell to work. When relationships fall apart and I don't know why and I can't help and I can't fix things, it makes me want this ring to be ( Read more... )

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chesh January 13 2009, 19:18:02 UTC

Well, I would assume that if crazy sky dood has issues with girls loving girls, then letting girls put the special magic rings on the fingers of other girls will make sky dood mad, whereupon he will revoke magic ring privileges for everybody and all married couples will immediately start fighting and get divorced ( ... )

chesh January 13 2009, 19:23:16 UTC

Or house-ownership! That's n=3 of n=3!
Then again, this is more likely another signal of long-term workability, not cause.

cutefuzzysatan January 13 2009, 21:45:23 UTC

As a side note, I'm trying to discern the magical talisman that actually works in the >2 yr time frame. In the running are broom-jumping, having the bride being incredibly ill at the wedding, indian cuisine, and getting married outside. (n=1, n=1, n=1 and n=1, respectively, out of a total n=3). More data as it comes in ;)

Here's some more data - frequent beating each other up outside the home and in public helps prevent beating each other up inside the home. Works for us!

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anonymous January 13 2009, 20:37:00 UTC

I miss you too, and am intrigued by your #1 in the above list. clever!

chesh January 13 2009, 20:42:29 UTC

Hello friend who has not signed in! :D

I've put together a spreadsheet with columns for names, addresses, phone numbers, last date of contact and mode of last contact (phone, email, snail mail, tackle-hug last time we were in the same location.)
Current plan is to contact, update, then sort the spreadsheet by date of last contact, bringing those with blank dates (and eventually those with the oldest dates) up to the top.
It's been going on six months since the wedding and the "OMG I love you and I've missed you so much and I promise to call more often since you are really awesome". . . not so successful with that. So now I am enlisting technology.
Or as my shirt said yesterday: "Stand back! I'm going to try SCIENCE!"

malcubed January 13 2009, 23:16:01 UTC

LOVE ME!

mischief03 January 14 2009, 03:29:51 UTC

what's your email address? I have similar ideas about emailing people personal emails on a regular basis.

chouyu_31 January 14 2009, 04:05:46 UTC

As an aside, certain marriage counseling gurus say that 30 minutes a day, 1 day a week, 1 weekend a month, and 1 week a quarter with your partner are the minimums for maintaining a healthy marriage.

Taking an active part in your relationship = good.

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Re: One week a quarter?? chouyu_31 January 14 2009, 19:57:54 UTC

Employers in the states do have policies that generally are antithetical to marriages. The entire "work hard" ethic presumes that working is more important than family, which is, by my personal argument, bullshit. As most non-retarded marriage counselors will tell you, "no one ever says that they wished they would have worked more on their death bed, it's always, 'I wish I would have spent more time with my family and friends'."