Comments | chibifiedzoe: He's not a terrible person... I promise... LJ just gets the bad days.

chibifiedzoe

He's not a terrible person... I promise... LJ just gets the bad days.

May 14, 2009 07:54

So I caught him watching porn yesterday. Little bitty girls and stuff again. He started closing windows when he heard me walking up and changed windows, but I would still see "girls" and "models" at the bottom of his screen. Tiled windows are a bitch, aint they? Anyhow, I played it off like nothing happened. He blushed (he never does that) and he ( Read more... )

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mouse2cat May 15 2009, 06:09:31 UTC

I've never really had a problem with porn. Brian and I have watched some and I learned a few things. For me I enjoy scenarios that I wouldn't want to happen in real life but are still really sexy. I don't think his watching porn is a reflection of dissatisfaction with you but just a different experience. I think taking it as if "you're not enough" isn't the right reaction. It's just going to leave you feeling inadequate and it's just not a well founded conclusion.

Although watching it secretly while you are home isn't how it should be done. I think this is the point where you can get upset about it. If he's got some sex fantasies that he needs to get out in to open then talk about it and try things together.

chibifiedzoe May 19 2009, 14:07:18 UTC

Thats been my problem. Its a rare day that I say "no" to much of anything. I'm not usually the prudish type. Thats part of why it scares me a bit, I think...

bat_scratches May 27 2009, 05:45:18 UTC

I totally get it babe. I know I flirt with exes and watch porn when I'm feeling annoyed, jealous, dissatisfied, and that i don't do those things when I'm happy with the person I'm with, and so when I find someone I'm with ogling other girls, especially ones who look nothing like my body type, I wonder, am I not doing it for you? Everyone says, nah, it's just natural for guys to watch porn, go to strip clubs, whatver, but I kinda feel like it's just the lowest form of cheating, getting off on someone else, fantasizing about someone else...it hurts. I do wish I could be one and only, but i think people feel that's asking too much, and we're supposed to be grateful they draw the line at fantasizing. I want to be a cool girlfriend, I don't want to be saying "you can't do this" or that, and i try to keep my jealousies to myself, because i don't want to be "that cunt" "controlling bitch" that get talked about to buddies, I don't want him to do the same things but in addition feel he has to sneak around, lie to me, but it drives me ( ... )