Rather bothered by something...

[chic_urbanity]

Today at work, I was sending captions for the TV drama GREEK, concerning the lives and dramas of US college sororities and fraternities. The weirdness of Sororities and Frats and the backstabbing that can possibly go on is a whooole other subject, but it was this one episode that I was listening to that bothered me... rather, it made me think about

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[bethaniej]

i watch greek and i also feel that the character of dale, and his very conservative christian beliefs are quite stereotyped of what a christian is perceived to be, and not what most of us actually are - and that it doesn't necessarily show a positive side to being a christian in many ways.

anyway - the thing that really annoyed me, is that dale, the super i refuse to have sex before marriage bloke - the next season, he loses his virginity. it annoyed me because, people DO wait, people CAN wait - and that just makes it look like NOBODY waits, even those who say they will! and it frustrates me. i waited till marriage, and yes, it was HARD - but i did it, and i'm glad i did.

wish they'd show that positively on tv sometime - and not just on the 40yr old virgin!!

[chic_urbanity]

Oh gosh are you serious? Dale ends up losing it? Ewww.. that is so disappointing. I mean sure he was a little extreme but I kind of liked him (based on the 8-10 episodes I sent) XD

And yes, I know it's hard. But I'm totally waiting too! James and I are confident in our self-control... that's definitely one fruit of the spirit we've got mastered ahahahaha, well, at least in this department. Who knows about the others?

[bethaniej]

yep he sleeps with his landlord and then goes all athiestic because he's let God down so he decides to forget God (although he does realise that's useless, and turns around again

[kaygina]

I don't think that waiting for marriage is a negative thing, though I personally don't believe in it. I like to know what I'm in for before making the ultimate commitment. =P

I do believe, however, that it should be meaningful. For me, it just had to be someone I really cared about before it happened. I think that's the most important thing. What bothers me most about the media is portraying people having casual sex with no substance (but lots of substance abuse =P haha) often and more often than not without consequences.

[chic_urbanity]

Well, see, you're the side that doesn't want to wait and that's like, your choice and all.. but sigh, why can't both sides be shown equally?? There's more than one reality. lol

I mean, and I totally respect you for voicing my opinion, but I hope you can permit me to ah.. object to the whole "try the shoe on before you buy" treatment of sex. If you love someone, that's all that should matter. Everyone can be good at sex if they're willing to communicate openly and lovingly, and if you're willing to learn together.. therefore "trying it out" to me is ah... well, it just doesn't seem... right? I'm not sure what word I'm looking for. Almost like, "hey, you're the perfect man but we gotta have sex first cuz... even if everything was perfect, if this one department isn't all that great.. sorry. no deal."

Or maybe that's just how I view it...

Anyway, I understand that's your choice, and well... as long as you're being safe about it.. lol. Which I'm sure you are, being the smart person you are.

[bethaniej]

i don't think waiting for marriage is a negative thing either. as i said in my post, i waited. but i think what rachelle is saying is that it's basically never portrayed as a positive thing in the media at all. it's shown on tv that everyone does it - but that's not true, and just makes more and more people forget the other side of the coin (in more issues than just this though!). it's a little unfair sometimes.

i know now why my parents were soooo strict on the amount of television we watched as kids, and what we did watch. they were so careful about teaching us their morals and standards and not letting the tv teach us how to live (in some ways, they might have gone overboard a bit - i was a pretty naive kid, but in all it wasn't bad).
i probably sound like a stuck up bitch now! i'm sorry if i do, sometimes i don't write stuff the way i really mean it but i guess my comment may sound a bit uppity so please don't take it as that!!!