[chicagochick]

I think Riley is me. Ugh. I was really hoping she wouldn't be and seeing how well liked she was in preschool and all of the invitations that she gets in kindergarten, was giving me hope. She's been invited to a few parties where the mom told me that she was the only one from school invited. But here she is with two friends over and they're leaving

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[rebelbets]

I'm sorry you're having a suck day. FWIW, when you get three little girls together, that kind of crap always happens. Two tend to gang up on the other. It's terrible to watch, when the left out kid is yours, but it's not unusual. I remember when I was younger elementary-aged, my mom not allowing me to have two friends over at once for that reason.

[jamiethetiger]

Yes, this.

[chicagochick]

I've been hearing a lot of that. My sister in law said, "You invited TWO girls? NO NO! Either ONE or THREE!"

[jh124]

Three boys is nearly the same. Not as bad, but close.

[cr8zyforaf]

I AM 40 and feel the same way. I am sorry. I don't have any advice because I am wallowing right now myself. Hugs. You aren't alone.

The girl drama is awful. I am getting ready to type out my own girl drama please help me post. I have the bossy, mean girl. I am so ashamed. I think it is so hard to relive all this crap through our daughters. I believe that kids are born with most of their personality and while you can shape them, you cannot really change them. I do agree that the dynamic of 3 girls is never good. Someone always gets left in the dust.

[chicagochick]

I'm sorry you're dealing with girl drama. I think a lot of girls are bossy--it's in their nature to be in charge! :) I look foward to reading your post!

[rubyprincess]

Wow. It would break my heart too. On one hand I really miss not having had a daughter for all the frivolous reasons. On the other, this is the stuff that plagued me, too. I wish I had advice but I don't. I just know you are a wonderful, terrific mother and you and Riley will get through.

As for the house, I soooooooooooo hear you. My ex-h bought ours at the height of the bubble and it has depreciated by more than half. Gross to talk money but we paid $450K and we would be lucky to get $200K for it. Similar in the area in CA are going for that. Gah. Yeah. So we can't sell it. I mean we could but how utterly stupid would that be? So we wait and maybe someday Pierson will turn a profit. But not holding my breath.

[chicagochick]

Gah is right. The housing situation is just sickening. Sorry you can relate. Hope things are going ok for you this weekend! :)

[jesseybell]

I agree - 3 girls is bad, bad, bad. I remember it vividly from childhood - being the one left out or the bossy one.

Sorry about the feelings at the new job - I don't know how teachers interact, but I have kind of resigned myself that work is work and then I go home to my real life. I used to have a large social life at my old job and somewhat at this job (I started it when I was almost 29) - after all, that is how i met DH. But as I get older, all my peers are in the same boat - we aren't there to do a ton of socializing. But the kids in their 20s definitely are!

I was terribly shy as a child (and still kind of am) - thankfully Ellie doesn't seem to be like that, but at the same time, 6 months into a new school and while I hear the same girl's names over and over, there aren't tons of birthday party invites or playdates (though I blame that on me - DH wants her to have playdates, but weekends are so short, I just don't want to bother - she is in before care and after care - that is enough time to play with other kids in my mind).

[chicagochick]

Yeah, I need to stop letting it bother me. I'm much happier when I let things go.

[nicu_nurse2001]

Girls are hard. Hanna had a hard time cause she was shy, awkward, kinds weird etc....but I embraced it and helped her as much as I can. I bought a lot of the American Girl doll books about dealing with friends, feelings, etc...and it really helped her. She still reads them! Focus on what she's good at and find friends that like those things as well. I tried pushing Hanna into girlie things and it was a big fail. She's not athletic either. More artistic etc...and I had to come to terms that she is not me and to learn how to raise that sort of child.

Allison is me so it's easy. Except when she's 14 cause then I'm screwed.

[chicagochick]

The American Girl books are a good idea! THanks!