Comments | chicjaime: You do it.

chicjaime

You do it.

Nov 02, 2007 03:16

Lately, a lot of people have been telling me that I just need to learn to be alone, well, I don't like being alone. I like people around and I like to love and I like to be loved and I take comfort in companions...I do, fuck it. So, people have been saying shit like "no matter who you're with, you're alone" and "you're going to have to be by ( Read more... )

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I agree mandyrhea November 4 2007, 02:53:10 UTC

Maybe this is a twist to what your saying, but it seems we spend a lot of time trying to prove to ourselves and others that we are independent and comfortable with this independency. Yet, everyone wants someone to love and be loved by. Someone told me that in a completely different way a few days ago, because he knows that I don't always like accepting help from him- or from anyone. It is easier - or at least makes me feel clearer- to know what I want and stop trying to act like I don't want it, although maybe sometimes this does hurt more. I think.

Re: I agree chicjaime November 4 2007, 03:55:28 UTC

Hey Mands,
You should know that I love you. I would be elated if I could somehow see you over Christmas. I'll be home for like 10 days, so maybe it would be possible.I know you probably won't go "back to Bay City", but if you are in Ann Arbor, I'll do my best to meet you there or something. You're one of my favorite people and I miss you times a million.

learn to love YOU anonymous November 7 2007, 18:15:16 UTC

It's not that everyone has to literally be alone. Who doesn't enjoy being able to have another one's presence to share part of the journey with... however, you can never rely on those around you to supply your self-esteem/worth/love. That is all false, and since everything in this world is temporary, what happens when they aren't around to give you that anymore? You can't just self destruct and expect those around you to be responsible for picking up the pieces. What is it to be alone? Are you comfortable in your own skin? Can you stand to be by yourself and enjoy the company, make yourself laugh, love yourself? If not, the only one who can change that is YOU.

Re: learn to love YOU chicjaime November 7 2007, 22:24:10 UTC

You bet your ass I've been trying to learn to do that, but when you have a deep down disdain for yourself,for everything you are inside and out, it basically boils down to the likeness of trying to convince a Christian there is no God. I've done Therapy, DBT, Cognitive behavioral. I don't know who you are , but major depression, the kind where you think you are so worthless that you are not even worth being alive has been pretty difficult to turn around, somedays I prevail against it other days I don't even know what the first step in loving myself is. I Literally just don't know how. One thing I do know is that it takes time.

Re: learn to love YOU chicjaime November 9 2007, 07:14:18 UTC

Who is this?