If I can offer something. Just a tidbit. You'll obviously choose your own path and deal with things the way you want to. Support groups are good just to "get some things out"...but unfortunately with a lot of people, they use it as a crutch. They'll never stop going because they feel like they need it...and in order to keep going, they have to keep grieving. That's not healthy. You'll never fully "recover" and you'll never stop missing and you'll never stop wishing things had been different...but you don't have to surround yourself with such a black cloud when it comes to your mom. Not that it sounds like you are...I've just encountered people who do. People who refuse to let go. Whether it's because they want the attention of the sympathy, or they just feel like they need a group of people who they have something in common with...I don't know.
Just...don't become one of them. You're not crumbly like that.
yeah i don't think i can go back. i mean they were nice....but i got the same vibe. i don't want to be there 3 years from now...you know? but i think it was good to go and talk about it. but that's why i see someone. so it didn't really help....i just wanted to see what it was about. and not hold it all inside.
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If I can offer something. Just a tidbit. You'll obviously choose your own path and deal with things the way you want to. Support groups are good just to "get some things out"...but unfortunately with a lot of people, they use it as a crutch. They'll never stop going because they feel like they need it...and in order to keep going, they have to keep grieving. That's not healthy. You'll never fully "recover" and you'll never stop missing and you'll never stop wishing things had been different...but you don't have to surround yourself with such a black cloud when it comes to your mom. Not that it sounds like you are...I've just encountered people who do. People who refuse to let go. Whether it's because they want the attention of the sympathy, or they just feel like they need a group of people who they have something in common with...I don't know.
Just...don't become one of them. You're not crumbly like that.
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Glad you got a Mateo-Weekend under your belt.
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