Why I haven't been around

[chienne_folle]

My parents are 89 (mother) and 90 (father).  They're frail and are not really safe anymore, staying where they are, especially since they live in the country, so they have an enormous lawn to mow and no neighbors close enough to hear them if they cry out.

I've been trying to get them to move into assisted living for several years now, and they've

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[nocturnus33]

I hear you, to take care of elderly parents it’s exhausting and overwhelming. I hope everything turn out well in the end.

[chienne_folle]

Thanks so much! I hope things are going well for you.

[orlando_switch]

So sorry to hear you are in such a stressful and energy consuming situation. I hope you are able to maintain some self care in between caring for your parents and observing the interaction between your mother and your niece. Please try to put yourself first!

[chienne_folle]

Thanks, hon! Everyone in the family will be relieved once they finally move into assisted living. They have the apartment as of April 1, but my parents have started saying that they don't want to move yet, so they'll just stay where they are. And the whole family said, "Argh!" :-)

[orlando_switch]

Oh that is so frustrating! I hope someone will be able to convince them to move asap, because I think they deserve the care of the assisted living and you really deserve the relief that you now constantly have to postpone till they really have moved.

On another note, I have started therapy at about 6 months ago with a new psychodynamic psychotherapist (and you are one of the few people here who know what kind of therapy that is) and I finally feel both seen and understood. And since he is also gay and has previously worked at a genderteam I also feel I don't have to explain myself to him. As a result I can be myself immediately in the therapeutical relation which is very rare and special for me. I feel with his safe holding I finally can go back to the origins of my attachment issues (which is confirmed by my transference), so I am confident it will bring me a lot.

Please continue with taking care of yourself as well, and not only of your parents * sending some good vibes*

[hbartthe2nd]

Oh goodness, you definitely need to carve out some time for yourself. It is hard having to care for your parents (even if you enjoy doing so). It is hard to do things when your health isn’t the best. And honestly, life is just all around hard at times. I hope by now the move is in full swing and that you are able to relax a bit. Take care of yourself. We’ll still all be here when you pop in next.