Can't sleep...

[childcalledit]

Well for whatever reason I can't get to sleep tonight so I figure I will just go on a rant on some things for now and see if that helps for a bit. If not I'll still get some things off my chest so I can stop thinking about them over and over while I try to get to sleep. First of all, I have no idea why I am so shy about certain things. It actually

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[anonymous]

As far as sex goes, first hand experience, don't rush into it, but it can be a really great thing in a good relationship. Not just physically, but it brings you closer as companions too. Don't listen to a damn person who HASN'T had sex when it comes to that issue, they have no idea what they're talking about and are useless to you. Knowing the type of person you are, I think the first girl that you really like and things hit off between you you'll be ready for sex in your mind, but you need to be carefull. I mean I don't mean to say I regret anything I've done, but doing it to early can be harmfull to your relationship if the two of you aren't completely ready, and that time changes depending on the people. For the person you're with, that time for the two of you might be 1 week, or 2 years, it really depends on how fast you are drawn into eachother. But yeah, don't have your first time with someone where you might regret it later, at least make sure you love them at that point, even if you can't guarntee you always will

[anonymous]

o and to finish the summary, just dont brick yourself into a major and you'll be fine, and whatever girl you get acting like yourself will end up lasting MUCH longer than a girl you think you like who you get through being shy. When you get to know people you're not shy, and that will confuse the women. After a few relationships i've figured that one thing out, act like yourself at all times (well, in reason obviously), and you'll get the chick you really need, not the one you think you want.

[wizer186]

FUCK i forgot to sign in on those comments... damn it

[anonymous]

matt's nuts.

kudos for considering the options.
i have an idea in mind, but i'm not one to make an imposition of any sort.

with that, you might know who i am. if you do, well done.

[anonymous]

by the way, when i said matt's nuts, i didn't attack his statements, just the fact that he is an interesting character.

[libertine_311]

Yeah I'm in agreeance with Matt, even though it's both insulting me and our relationship (but w/e I'm used to it). Sex can be great, but it can fuck things up, and you may not realize it because it's great. Even if you're sure the girl's right for you, it may turn out that she's not. Basically, like you said, make sure that you could live with taking that person with you forever. I thought I could, but shit happened, so sometimes I regret it. But as long as you don't hate yourself afterwards, you'll be fine. I definitely recommend having sex before marriage though-statistics show that those that don't have a much higher risk of cheating and an uphappy marriage, and I would never wish those on you Josh. So in summation, when you think the time is right, wait an extra month (just to be safe). Try to distinguish love from lust. Love yourself first no matter what and never let your partner pressure you into sex, even if you've already been having it-causes resentment and tension that lasts. Good luck.