It's okay to not hold the baby, right?

[pilar_zuazo]

I'm the same person from the Nephew Vacation Ruiner post and I now love this site. I've spent the last few days reading everything posted. It's refreshing to see so many like-minded people

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[lmichelle599]

Is there some unspoken rule that if you're female you must always be interested in a baby you've seen everyday since it's birth?

Apparently. *smh*

[pilar_zuazo]

I mean, I've seen this baby collectively more than my own nieces and nephews. She should be grateful someone hasn't told her to shove her baby back where it just came from.

[chocolate_frapp]

LOL

[rustica]

Oh, co-workers! I've no idea. Seems I'm often the one who breaks the unwritten rules. It's not just you.

[pilar_zuazo]

Oh, yeah, didn't think about that. I mentioned that she pulled the "i'm busy" crap when I tried to show her my new engagement ring a ways back when I got engaged and I felt bad but in all actuality she was playing in Microsoft Paint. She had made an Easter egg and was making different sections. So, she was that busy she couldn't have even glanced? I'm beginning to understand now. Perhaps she's a narcissist and I've just managed to miss it this whole time.

[nesmith]

It's not rude at all. You're under no obligation to hold her child and she's being ridiculous and self-centered for acting like you saying "No thank you" was some kind of personal insult. Screw her

[pilar_zuazo]

So today she came by the office and she didn't bring the baby because he has a little sniffle and she asked me for a word. Basically she told me that she feels that I'm not as invested as she thought and hoped I would be. She says that I was so involved when she was pregnant that she doesn't understand what changed.

I explained to her that every attempt on my part to keep in her circle was met with little or nothing. The few times I texted and asked to come by were declined-fair enough, she was tired and had a newborn-but I offered to bring dinner and help clean up so she could rest. The few calls were never returned. One text from her claimed she was super busy but apparently not busy enough to post a million photos of her son's first few weeks to Facebook.

I liked a few of the pics and recently discovered she unfriended me. So basically she wants to end the friendship. Whatever. That's her problem now. I'm moving on. Plus she handed in her notice today when she came. She wants to be with the baby 24/7.

[thiny_like]

I wonder where do you live. Where is the place where people have such as rules?) It is just very surprising for me. First of all, I am not child free, and I actually have a 6 months old baby, but I so do not like such as "standards". Some coworkers asked me when am I going to bring the baby to work, and I always want to tell them: never or when baby will be about 7-8 years old, and by that time I will be working in a different office. I just think they are being polite and are not interested in my baby that I really care less about. Moreover, I do not want people would hold my baby, absolutely not. So you are not obligated to hold people's babies, not at all! It is probably hormones that make your coworker to be so sensitive to everything about babies. It should go away soon.