Comments | chivalric55: Male help needed

chivalric55

Male help needed

Jun 15, 2009 20:05

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natasnape June 15 2009, 19:02:14 UTC

My husband says that it is not only rape but also trespassing what Hermione did in the story. However, upon discussing with him why and how the assessment of the situation could change, he admitted that it could have potential. If the woman in question was someone he wanted to pursue, then such a situation could be an opening to further development. He said that private men (shy was his exact wording) and men with low self-esteem would be more against. When it came to the fact that the men remembered the situation as a dream and a pleasant one at that, that it can be a way of consent. I disagree with that, but he said that accepting that partner in a dream would ease the edge of the real-life situation. On the other hand, if the woman in question has been somebody he was not interested in in the slightest previously, he would feel accosted ( ... )

chivalric55 June 15 2009, 19:35:01 UTC

Thanks so much for answering so quickly and for taking the time to discuss this further after your husband made his first comment. I'm very grateful for this info! And of course - as this is HG/SS - Snape is interested in her. That's why I posted his "dream" first and his wish to be with her, why I showed how much he enjoyed every second of his dream. This is why I gave his dreamgirl Hermione's face.
Again, thanks, to you as well as to your husband!

natasnape June 16 2009, 04:22:56 UTC

His information was surprising to me, because my view of this is distinctly black and white. I'm trying to come to terms with the idea that this could work for them. Let's see the Snowstorm!

chivalric55 June 16 2009, 08:21:13 UTC

Snowstorm is in the hands of my beta, and I just nudged her to speed up a bit... I'll change it a bit, though, to adress readers concerns that, if it were the other way round (Snape taking Hermione whilst she's asleep) it would be really, really rape.
I still don't agree ;-)
Hugs from Germany, dear!

voxangelus June 15 2009, 22:34:07 UTC

I'll ask my husband to take a look at it :)

ysilme June 16 2009, 11:35:39 UTC

I've asked mine, too. He is a rather private person, but very open-minded, as am I, and he didn't have any problems with the story and didn't sense anything feeling in the remotest like rape. But then, he, too, sees rape as something having to do with power, domination and taking advantage of someone who is not willing, as well as not having necessarily to include intercourse at all ( ... )

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chivalric55 June 20 2009, 08:56:09 UTC

Tja, auf die deutsche Rechtssprechung ist halt Verlass ( ... )

ysilme June 17 2009, 10:30:38 UTC

For me at least, your comment is very helpful. Exactly my way of thinking, only that I'm not able to put them so well into words.