Comments | chubgrrl: Bad morning so far

chubgrrl

Bad morning so far

Feb 19, 2006 10:00

So, my girlfriend and I had made plans for her to come over and go for a bike ride with me this morning...a long one, like 40 miles. I suck at riding, as in I am extremely slow especially now that I weigh 160 instead of the 140 that I was at for a few years of pretending to be an athlete for the first time in my life. Anyway, more on that in ( Read more... )

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my 2 cents fre12003 February 20 2006, 15:35:46 UTC

Hi there...Ive read your LJ and i can empathize with alot of things you seem to be going through! Your very lucky to have a GGG partner to share your experiences with. I always wonder this from my own past experiences though; may be some GGG partners end up thinking they like your fetish, when what they really like is its effect on you. This may be a question you want to ask yourself in this situation. Does your gf actually like it? or does she enjoy how riled up you get by it? I've had that problem with GGG S.O.'s in the past, and I think they eventually lose a bit of interest. In something as semi-permanent as WG, they may lose interest once they gain weight. Obviously you know the situation beter than I do though, so you will be able to determine if thats correct. I could be totally off base though ( ... )

chubgrrl February 20 2006, 17:57:01 UTC

Zonker--hi, thanks for the thoughts...not really going through too much of a rough time, just trying to figure out how to best truly accept these feeding/gaining desires in myself and incorporate them into a relationship which may just be the best one I have ever had. I need to be able to accept them because they are there and very strong, and I think one of the reasons in the past that my relationships haven't been as fulfilling as I'd wanted is that I wasn't fully aware of all of this in myself...it is sort of crazy to me to realize how much a part of my sexuality this all is. And I really AM probably MORE conflicted than S., as I think that while yes, she is scared of her own enjoyment of food and these fantasies and getting fat, I am projecting some of my own fears on her ( ... )

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GGG chubgrrl February 20 2006, 18:50:52 UTC

GGG is a term coined by the sex columnist Dan Davage. It means "good, giving and game," three qualities that are nice to have in a partner who doesn't share in the exact same sexual interests. It means someone who is happy to go along with a partner's fantasies, try new things, keep an open mind, etc.; even when those things aren't exactly what does it for them. Hope that helps!

fre12003 February 21 2006, 02:51:53 UTC

Haha No its my fault, I shouldn't have just jumped into abbreviations! Here's a link for the column....it's pretty awesome....
http://www.avclub.com/content/savagelove

fredoped February 20 2006, 23:22:41 UTC

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joel_mot February 21 2006, 03:53:41 UTC

A very interesting entry. (I knew you'd be an interesting person.) Relationships are tough, aren't they?

friskyfatgirly February 22 2006, 15:33:56 UTC

Always seems like just when you start to figure yourself out and things make sense that something out of your control goes wrong and throws a monkey wrench into everything. I wish you both the best of luck and I hope you can help her come to terms with her own changing body like you have come to love your own.