Break-ups suck.

Sep 11, 2009 17:48

7 years we have been together...I got the courage to do what I've felt I should do for 2 years...and now I am not sure if I made the right decision. It hurts. Does that mean I made the wrong decision?

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kirbopher September 12 2009, 02:34:41 UTC
Nah, half the time that's what it feels like. Not to sound cycnical, but the truth is that it'll pass, trust me.

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ciaran_gabriel September 12 2009, 03:05:15 UTC
I know...anything will pass over time, even for him and he really didn't want to break up at all...but as he stood up to walk away, fighting tears I didn't think I could bear it. I guess time will tell...something had to be done, I didn't want to continue with the status-quot of feeling in a rut that was never going to get better for another year. Maybe I just didn't try hard enough? I wish either he agreed with me or I felt the same way he did.

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ultra_taboo September 12 2009, 03:38:01 UTC
Well maybe he'll try and win you back if he loves you

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ciaran_gabriel September 12 2009, 03:44:41 UTC
He's been trying already...it's not in his hands, it's in mine. Guess I just have some soul-searching to do.

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inuyatta September 12 2009, 05:23:27 UTC
You gotta do what's best for you, even if it hurts right now.

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ciaran_gabriel September 12 2009, 05:29:05 UTC
I wish I was 100% convinced I did what is best for me...right now I just don't know. I'm always haunted with thoughts that I'm just looking for something that doesn't exist, or that it's just some emotional handicap that I have.

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inuyatta September 12 2009, 06:02:19 UTC
Well, can you honestly say you've been happy in the last couple of years? If not, it was time to move on, y'know?

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ciaran_gabriel September 12 2009, 06:05:33 UTC
Not terribly unhappy, but not really satisfied. Obviously I came to that conclusion and initiated the breakup...but it's still very heartbreaking when someone has been part of your life for so long and care about you so much. And it's not that I didn't care, something just never felt right.

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zeroapple September 12 2009, 19:44:33 UTC
It hurts. Does that mean I made the wrong decision?

Not necesarilly. A breakup hurts be it a good choice or bad choice. Simple as that.

But really, if the reason why you broke up was because it didn't feel right, I'd say you probably made the wrong decision. Maybe the problem with you two was something that could been fixed, or maybe the problem was with you. I don't know the full extent of this situation so I can only speculate from my neutrality, but I'd say you should really think about why it never felt right and then you'll see whether or not it was the right choice.

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ciaran_gabriel September 12 2009, 19:56:27 UTC
Well, thanks for reiterating everything I've already said. For nearly 8 years I've been not sure whether I've found the right person, I've never met a person who had a successful relationship that hasn't told me if you're not sure, it's probably not right, and if the relationship is not rewarding then it should end. I wasn't happy, I wasn't connecting, I wasn't in love, at any point I could remember.

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anonymous September 18 2009, 22:14:48 UTC
Oh, my dear friend ( ... )

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