Restless twenties

[cieo]

It's a dangerous age for me, although I think I might deserve it, having never gone through a rebellious phase during my teens.

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[loga]

As you say, keep up the good work now, even if it's difficult. You will be rewarded in the long run.

[cieo]

Thanks, D. <3

[greybeta]

Funny, I'm feeling the same way in my senior year of college.

Hi, dropped in through theferrett and zoethe. Love your icon and comments. I hope you don't mind me friending you because I think you can help me improve my writing in both content and style.

[cieo]

Oh, thank you :)
I don't mind at all. I understand that some LJers are weird about things like that, but I've never understood it.

[brujah]

Beautifully written and heart-touching, sugar.

Would that I could, I'd hug you and tell you that everything will be worthwhile in the long run even though it doesn't seem like it now. And.. I'd gently remind you that you should never settle. For anything.

Settling brings regrets later in life, wondering what if, and a sense of loss you'll never be able to shake.

So, you go do and be, take care of necessary things and let time run its course. It'll be worth it, you wait and see.

[cieo]

Thank you, Helly. :)
I read this earlier in the morning and--it was a great thing to wake up to.

Yeah. For now, I'll bear it. And grin.

[cieo]

Want deferrment

Well, that's certainly one way to put it. :)

[subsiding_leaf]

To state a slightly different view...there's nothing wrong with settling if that's what you want. Settling does not necessarily bring discontent, and similarly, NOT settling does not necessarily bring satisfaction. I'm sorry, but the truth of the matter is, you'll have regrets no matter what decision you make. The only thing you can do is lessen the regret in whatever decision you manage to make. If you find yourself overworked and exhausted and thinking things are not worth it, ten years down the line, you'll be regretting. If you find yourself constantly craving for more challenges in your life, you'll be regretting. In either situation, the only way you can stop yourself from regretting too much is to focus on the good instead of the bad.

Honestly, one would rather be an average happy person than a "superlative" unhappy person, so just make sure you're making the decision that is best for you. Some people aren't disappointed with an average life. The question you have to answer is: are you one of those people?

[cieo]

The question you have to answer is: are you one of those people?

Well, I guess I'm not. I know I'll regret it if I don't suck it up and torture myself now. I mean, it's not all bad. Sometimes it's quite enjoyable. But when it's bad, it's bad. You know what I'm talking about.

[subsiding_leaf]

I certainly do.^^ As you know, I'm not exactly the type to choose a 9-5 job either (though they're fast becoming 8-7s). But I do have a quiet sort of admiration for the people who can gracefully accept being average and still love their life, or choose to bow out of a competitive, strenuous profession when they realize it's not working, or not be embittered by the fact that, OMG, they're never going to get a Nobel Prize or be constantly cited by everyone who's anyone. So they're not out there shaking the world, big deal. Enough people are already trying; any more shaking and the earth will get shaken out of the solar system. :p

[cieo]

Haha, that's the point of my post. I'd totally have to go through an extended period of self-loathing and then wind up a bitter old crone with cats addicted to tuna that I can't afford.