Comments | cierrablue: Compromise

cierrablue

Compromise

Feb 11, 2009 12:52

I'm sick of doing what I think will make other people happy. My parents/family especially. The freaking ways they try to manipulate me make me insane. I know I'm not alone in this frustration, but I'm 42 years old. It's time to start living for me. My LJ friends don't try to guilt me, why does everyone else seem to? I need to set some ( Read more... )

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buscemi February 11 2009, 22:00:53 UTC

Yeah! You tell 'em! :) How does that song go? "You can't please everyone, so you got to please yourself..."

ravengirl February 11 2009, 22:37:07 UTC

That's right! Even President Lincoln said, You can't please all of the people all of time....Or something like that.

dewlettizzle February 11 2009, 22:25:47 UTC

you can do it! <3

ravengirl February 11 2009, 22:36:06 UTC

LOL Regarding the non-animation! I've been no help! Sheesh. (Maybe I can help you tonight- oh have faith!)

Boundaries, exactly. You don't need to explain your choices, your decisions. All you need to do is to state them. "I appreciate your advice/ insight" is a "nice" reply to those who might be manipulative. But it does not imply that you will take their advice!

Good for you! Now, indulge in something nice-- a great bath, a great meal, a new lipstick. Celebrate your new boundaries!
*love*

cierrablue February 11 2009, 23:27:55 UTC

Don't think you haven't helped. You helped me figure out part of the puzzle, jfh has helped me figure out another. I'll put everyone's help together and I WILL figure this out.

I like your suggestion about what to say. It's good to have an answer in my arsenal all prepared and ready to fire when needed.

you're a peachy friend B!!! ~mwa~

brangwaine February 11 2009, 23:59:50 UTC

::HUGS::

Been there. Doing that.

Do what makes you happy, honey. Everyone else will fall in line. Eventually.