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[circle_master]

I feel bad updating the Xanga journal at http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=patzvey_YHVH more than like twice a day so I'm going to write over here so I don't spam people out

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[januaryam]

yay for somebody who thinks things through! haha. last year i started wishing i could have an arranged marriage. yup. it's just simpler.

and your comment about the train -- haha.

[jesusfreak7]

yes. to all account, i believe that i agree. your point on dating is very interesting, and a good one. when did dating, in fact, start? and taking the marriage relationship comparing it to that of Christ and the Church, then does the Church ever "date" Christ? in BI last semester, we talked of how we are in an engagement with Christ right now, that the marriage will come at HIS coming. thus, we are awaiting the return of our bridegroom. there's no dating involved. it's so strange though, because all we know, is dating. i was re-reading, i kissed dating goodbye (joshua harris) one day at work over the summer and an older coworker came up to me and said, "i wouldnt do that if i were you!" she proceeded to tell me that the only way to get to know a man is to date him. WHAT A LIE! i also agree with what you said about the girl giving away too much of herself in a relationship. i have seen it happen far to many times. i am sure that given the opportunity in the past, i would have too (i have never dated). God has been teaching me a lot

[circle_master]

I didn't read 'I kissed dating goodbye' but I read the second one, I think it is called 'Boy meets Girl'? Something like that. I thought Joshua Harris did a wonderful job giving examples of good relationships and poor ones. A good resource to read through once in a while.

I have no idea where the concept of dating came from either. I'd have to assume it would be more recent - perhaps from the age of Romance (1800's I think). Sometime in the shift from courtship to our modern system. By courtship I mean where there is a choice, but never a commitment - the guys pursue a girl and then eventually he just asks and she decides.

[jesusfreak7]

when you think about it, being a christian is almost like an arranged marriage.

-batter

[ebchrispy]

interesting thoughts...and I do somewhat agree about the dating thing (although I am probably the LAST person who should be saying that, heh)...but I also don't believe in arranged marriages, either. Of course it's a marriage with a church and about love for Christ, but also love for your partner. You can't arrange "love" though.

Still, with all the crazy stuff that goes on today in the dating world, maybe arranged marriages wouldn't be too much of a bad thing...

still don't agree with it though.

[jesusfreak7]

...in countries with arranged marrages, the divorce rate is lower. figure that one out. pssh. haha i don't get it.

[ebchrispy]

you can't arrange love, but in arranged marriages when both people seek to fulfill their roles, love develops. we live in a world where people are always looking for the perfect *something*. job, car, stereo, outfit, house, whatever. however, we are all flawed and all our relationships will always be flawed, so if we accepted that and get out of the self-absorbed mindset our society wants us to have we'll have a much better chance of finding a happy loving marriage.

[ebchrispy]

that was me

-batter