Morality in Adultry

[cirex]

Adultery has its own morality. Is it morally right to tell the person whom you committed adultery with that you do not want to fuck him or her anymore because you want to be back with your partner?

It might sound ridiculous but think again.

Comments

[fonsus]

you've been reading too much mr brown! :P

[wince]

wat is this mr brown thingy all abt...?? shrugged!!

[cirex]

I have no idea too... shrug! I think Fonsus has told me before but I have forgotten.

[niceguy69]

What is being "morally right" anyway, after all your morality is different from his. Can we really judge? More important to look at is what the intentions of the person is, rather than whether is his "morally right".

I mean divorcing someone is "morally wrong" in catholism (dun know abotu protestants), but is it really "wrong"?

[cirex]

Ok, let's not talk about morally right or wrong but do you have any responsibilty towards the person you have committed adultrey with? He is a fellow human being with feelings too.

[niceguy69]

Okay please don't take this literally and you do need to drop some forms of dualisma and preconception to understand this:

During a service, someone asked Zen Master Sheung Sahn: "Zen master, I have a friend whose wife is always sleeping around. My friend is very upset. What can we do about his wife?"

Zen Master Sheung Sahn replied: "Ah! Dogs and cats have free sex, no worries"

[cirex]

:o)

[discoecstasy]

>> Is it morally right to tell the person whom you committed adultery with that you do not want to fuck him or her anymore because you want to be back with your partner?

To me its not a question of morals. I mean, its more like "Well if the sex was bad of course I have all the right to tell the person to fuck off cuz my partner fucks me better!".

[cirex]

You are assuming the sex was bad but what if it was good, better than with your partner? But then you want to be back with your partner and so you just say, bye, fuck off?

[discoecstasy]

Then I'll just tell him I want to go back to my partner and apologize lor. Why? Because ... *insert excuses here* :)

Some examples of excuses:
1. My partner threatened suicide.
2. My partner threatened to cut me off his $1m will.
3. My partner has mended his whorish ways and wants to start afresh and I still have a teeeeny weeeeeny bit of feelings there.
4. My partner is dating my rival and I'd rather have a bad fucker than lose him to that whore.

[cirex]

You are indeed very creative when it comes to excuses. No wonder you are in sales...hehe

[tarzansg]

well if you did tell him that you're attached before you fucked with him, then i guess he should have been prepared for this. if you havent, you better have a good reason for wanting to get back with your partner. but if you & your partner is in an open relationship, then what's stopping both of you ? what has changed ?

[jin_n_juice]

Hmm.. to me it depends on the understanding that exists, if any, betweem the two people who sleep together.

It could range from an ONS all the way to a committed partnership.

If it's an ONS, then by definition, one would not be fucking him again, right?

[cirex]

You realise u don't have anything to describe whatever that's between an ONS and committed relationship. It's always what's between those 2 extremes that's ambiguous and that's where the danger lies.

[carteblanche_sg]

What abt this question: Is celibacy the only moral alternative to marriage?

:)

[cirex]

If celibacy is the moral alternative to marriage, then what is the immoral alternative? ons? sex buddies?

I don't see casual sex as immoral so long as both parties know what they are doing and nobody is forced into doing what they don't want to do.

So there is no moral or immoral alternative to marriage, just alternatives to marriage.