Things I thought would happen

[claerwen]

I thought Oggie would be proud of me when, eventually, I told him of our engagement (we're not engaged; but I thought there would be a time when we were, and I'd tell Oggie and he'd be proud). I thought he would kiss me on the cheek on my wedding day, and then make rude comments about the arrangements. I thought he would listen to me complain

Comments

[nonameyet]

Wow. Not sure whether I think you are lucky or greedy to have had a friend to think things like that about.

I've got mum to be proud when I told her we were engaged, but to me someone you want to grow old with is someone you ask to marry or if that isn't an option you leave them to grow old without you; I found it too hard being that close but not having the main prize.

I wonder how Oggie felt if he thought you felt like that ?

PS Thanks for the card and wishes for miss_t_ide and me.

[claerwen]

Lucky, to have had him there for the years I did. I don't think it's greedy to imagine that a loving relationship with a good friend might carry on and age as you do; I think that that is a very natural thing, indeed the one thing most eagerly to be wished and worked towards.

to me someone you want to grow old with is someone you ask to marry or if that isn't an option you leave them to grow old without you

There are other people-not many, but several-with whom I hope to grow old, as well as Tom; not people to whom I'm attracted as a potential partner, but friends whom I love very much, even though I don't often see some of them. Perhaps if I'd happened never to meet any of them then simply being half of a couple would seem like a full helping of relationships, but as it is, at the moment, these people make up much of the reason for keeping on breathing.

[lusercop]

Thank you for that. It made me laugh and cry at the same time, for all the things that you've reminded me about how special he was.

[rmc28]

This is beautiful, thank you for sharing it.

I too have a few non-partner friends that I want to grow old with.

[gvy]

Just mailed him and Paul an hour ago... to read the year-old announcement a few minutes later.

Having lost my good old friend too, I understand you. But keep on, it's worth that. You're needed too, I guess.