on stalking and identity

[cleverlilwill]

Two completely separate topics, I swear. But first, let me apologize for not posting lately. Mainly I've been hanging out on Twitter~ So if you haven't added me yet, feel free to do so! And I think part of the issue is that I rarely have anything to say that's worth posting for the masses to see. At least with fangirling you know some people on

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[loverelay]

#1) kakaka, why would you think it's a bad thing? Research is always good and at least you won't sound stupid and make a blunder during convos (like mistaking x for y and end up offending the person). I used to go back and read everyone's journals (and by that, I mean up to a year back) just to see if we had any similarities and what should be expected. Of course I don't have time anymore... It's good that you have this strong drive! It's actually very useful if applied to things besides people and people you reaaaally like, but I guess that's part of what keeps your interest in the first place, huh

[cleverlilwill]

The good thing is, I don't like many people to that degree... Aha. So take up a lot of my time. Worst case scenario: finding more satisfaction in reading about the person than actively getting to know the person - because then that's not a real relationship. It's happened to me once before and. not good. I still have a fear of annoying the hell out of someone though... because I'm like that too. I do not take well to people who try to talk to me too much

[cleverlilwill]

um. or rather, *So it doesn't take up a lot of my time.

[loverelay]

That's just introversion vs extroversion... It means you still want to get to know the person, but you just can't bring yourself to do the whole social thing. So. It's ok.

Hate to say this, but the easiest way to get out of it is to simply make a choice and stand by it. And if the situation gets uncomfortable, then you can elaborate and explain. Most Taiwanese are mostly Han anyways, and it really shouldn't be something that brings bad feelings. I noticed that the identity thing comes into play most when you're always around asians and comparing/differentiating between each other. Get thrown into a state that like 99% white and no one cares if you're Chinese or Taiwanese. You're just asian. And you stop caring much about it after that too. (although it brings another kind of shock hehe...)

[littleplant]

Ah, i don't think it's stalking. It's just being observant, haha. It's normal, I think. C:

Oh, I'm on Twitter too! @magikaarp here. Going to follow you now! :D

[cleverlilwill]

lol, that's very reassuring bb. thank you~

:D following you now too!

[liederkreis]

I'd get someone who asks if I can speak Taiwanese.:| I never get that assumption that having a certain heritage/ethnicity means someone will automatically speak that language. Going by that, I should know at least German, Portuguese, and Czech, since both my dad's parents and my mom's mom are immigrants. Yeah, I've heard them all speaking their native languages and more, but even after going to a German church for a lot of my childhood, I can't say more than a few basic phrases. The only reason my dad actually speaks German is because he took it in high school and university, and he's a first generation American who grew up with parents who still can barely speak English

[liederkreis]

Adding, because I've just read through the other comments, and I see that a lot of the identity issue is a matter of Taiwanese vs. Chinese, which I really don't think I can comment on. So please excuse me if what I said earlier offended - I really didn't mean it to! Foot-in-Mouth Syndrome - I certainly have it. ( ._.)

[cleverlilwill]

Nothing you said offended me. <3 In fact, what you said made a lot of sense and, believe it or not, I never really thought of it like that. So really, thank you! <333

[pinkverse]

i've added you on twitter! i'm still trying to figure out how it works.

lol, i hope that doesn't count as stalking, because i do the exact same thing. okay, it might have more to do with my ability to remember everything i hear, but i don't think it's creepy. idk, i genuinely like learning new stuff about people :]

[cleverlilwill]

Added you back! I'm sure you'll get the hang of it pretty quickly~

lol, you guys are making me feel a lot better in that at least I'm not alone with my antics. <3

[yunsias]

1. I don't think it's a bad thing! I don't remember every little thing but I have friends who said that they were touched when I remember something that they have said or mention in passing. So no, it's not a bad thing. People should feel special that you remember small things about them. Don't worry, okay?

2. Awww...I don't really get into such situations. *hugs* But I don't know, you can try to learn the language? Only if you want to. I only started learning Cantonese when I listened to the songs and watched the dramas. But I don't think you should feel embarrassed that you don't know how to speak the language.

[cleverlilwill]

Lol, you guys make so much sense. I guess I have a habit of freaking myself out?

And I'm over the whole situation now. Still standing strong! Thank you for the support~ <3