Called Out As "Lady, Ma'am, Woman, etc!" in Emergency Question

[mel_pa]

What can I do if someone in authority like a cop,
a store clerk, etc calls out with "Lady, Ma'am,
Woman, etc!" but I am not sure they are talking to
me because apparently I am not passing very well as
male?

Comments

[mamoruguardian]

I would look around my person to see if there is a woman there because if there is you can stop them and you both turn around to whomever is calling out and if that person points to you walk up to them politely or however the case may be and say, "it's sir actually" or whatever applies with the situation.

Before I started passing I would be called sir all the time and so I would normally politely correct them and if it was someone behind me I'd wait for them to say, "you in the black" or whatever before actually turning around. One lady really pissed me off when I was walking toward the women's bathroom and keep yelling out from behind me, "Hey boy! Boy! You know that's the ladies room! Boy!" I just turned around and grabbed my breasts saying, "Yeah I know," shut her ass up pretty quickly, lol.

Jayson

[mr_liam_to_you]

I just turned around and grabbed my breasts saying, "Yeah I know," shut her ass up pretty quickly, lol.

Haha, win.

[cinitrom]

That happened to me recently, the bathroom thing. I went to my school's homecoming dance (haha, teenager) in (women's) dress pants and a (women's) blazer, and when I went to the (women's) bathroom the (male) principal followed me in to say "Hey, big guy, you're in the wrong bathroom." That would have been really validating if I'd thought I passed well enough to use the men's room, but instead I had to turn around and say "I'm a girl."

[autastic]

Ah, memories: last time I tried to use a women's bathroom, the cleaning lady freaked out on me and kept knocking on the stall door. Once, in a fast-food restaurant, an old lady wouldn't even enter the bathroom when she saw me in there. I even tried talking in my female voice, but she still wasn't convinced. Quite validating, really...

[autastic]

Anyway, sorry to go off on a tangent. If they call you by the wrong pronoun, all you have to do is look very offended and state that you are a guy, and most people will feel really, really guilty and apologize all over themselves. The trick is in your own level of confidence about your gender identity.