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[cmaried]

Poll Walking away from an argument

Comments

[jadeejf]

While I say "yes" in both cases, I tend to not walk away from arguments, but try to defuse them. I know that in premarital counseling they warned against doing it unless you said something along the lines of "I'm too upset right now, let's continue this conversation at 10 p.m." because it has the same effect as just ignoring someone and it's not the healthiest response. It can be okay, so long as you set up a time to come back to it for the other party's sake.

[cmaried]

Wise advise. I think in my situation, I'm going to explain why I need to leave and hope the other party understands. I've made the mistake of just leaving abruptly, and that is apparently a big no-no.

[salad_barbarian]

For the first one I think it's healthy but not maybe not wise to walk away from a boss.

[cmaried]

Yeah exactly ^ I mean, it would suck to lose your job over that.

[becoming_rachel]

I said yes to both.
It's healthier often to cool off, come back, and speak rationally. It doesn't matter if the person is in authority, if they are in a heated argument, they aren't acting like it, as they're supposed to be the ones to diaI it down in the first place.
Bosses can be unreasonable the same as anyone else. If the argument is getting heated and emotional, I'd say, "Can we please take some time, think about this, and discuss it later? I don't want this to get unprofessional." and leave it at that.

[cmaried]

I agree with you. I just wonder if in the workplace, the boss would allow that. Fortunately, I've never experienced such an argument in the workplace, just at home.

[ginnyjake]

I think it's why you leave the argument that's key. Are you leaving an argument with your boss because you don't respect their authority or because you're trying to avoid responsibility for your actions is probably not okay.

[cmaried]

I agree with you. :)

[cmaried]

Thanks everybody :)