feelings suck.

[coastermaniac04]

why am i so good at screwing up relationships?

i get scared far too easily. i'm insecure about myself. i can't handle focusing all my attention on one person. i refuse to be in a long distance relationship. i dont handle emotions well. i hate feeling vulnerable. i dont like to talk about my feelings. i dont like public displays of affection. i hate

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[_crow_chick_]

YOU have to want it enough to make the effort, John. Until then, it's useless. Don't put all of it on "the girl that can handle the mess that you are" and make an effort to better prepare yourself for a relationship. They take work and must be nurtured - they don't just magically appear and work perfectly.

You have to want it. You have to be willing to work. You have to stop giving yourself excuses like "I'm no good at this" and just say "Dammit, I want this, so I'm GOING to be good at it." You're driven in every other area of your life and as soon as you make readying yourself for a relationship a priority, you might find success there as well.

[anonymous]

okay. I'll post...twist my arm. dang.

we can talk about this if you'd like--I may have some insight, seeing as how I'm an expert by now (can we joke about "us" yet?? not sure, let's see...)

actually, I don't need to post things here--this is private. you can call anytime. and I would be glad to talk with you about this. I've been on the receiving end of your affections twice now--maybe I can help. maybe not, though. who knows. we can try.

love to you, John. Love, Celina

[damagedprincess]

You have to want to allow someone in your life and you dont always have to devote 100% of your time with that special someone..You can't going around thinkin that you can't be good enough for this special someone..you have to think positive..if you can't do that then...wait until you think your feeling good about yourself..there is a time for friends and there is a time for that special someone....you learn from past loves..what you did wrong or right...use that to your advantage..improve yourself.Dont force yourself unless your mentally ready..it will only end up with problems. <3 Love ya babes!

[darkside462]

listen, yo... and listen good.

you are normal. not normal like bland normal. normal like, everybody has their own issues.

you have standards. this is good. it might weed out alot of potential hotties, or make you feel like no one is out there, but overall, its saving you time and mental anguish caused by relationships that weren't worth trying in the first place.

bros before hos. friends are worth alot more than whatever you want to call it, girlfriends, hose beasts, or feminazis. they are more loyal, and friends don't usually "dump" their friends.

if you really want a relationship, you must understand that girls are dumb and they want someone who is an ass and treats them like shit. i know it sucks, but dont hate the player, hate the game. i know you do.

[darkside462]

not like domestic violence "treat them like shit"
like, believe in yourself, confidence (the brother of arrogance), dont push over, which can lead to disputes (the drama)... etc.

[nowiamsix]

i don't know if you're trying to be sarcastic or funny with this advice, but it isn't coming off that way at all.

first, no "hos," "beasts," or "feminazis." a girl not liking you doesn't make them a prostitute, an animal or a "feminazi." (how i loathe that word.)

secondly, "they want someone who is an ass and treats them like shit?" what? on a literal level, that's advocating partner abuse. figuratively, it plays into the glorification of patriarchal male dominance over women, which hurts both women who are independent and the guys who don't want to play into the typical macho stereotype anyway.

so i disagree that acting like a misogynist will get you women. maybe... try being nice? but what would i know, i'm just a dumb girl.

[darkside462]

jeez, im just tellin it how it is.

teehee
miss you too.