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Yes I KNOW I'm supposed to be a healer... but even we have problems :)

Oct 25, 2004 19:29

OK, yes I'm a healer, and yes I have a problem that's sort of friendship/love related I guess.

( Cut for excessive amounts of drama. Those with no toleration for drama don't click )

Comments 3

chibirhm October 25 2004, 18:03:41 UTC

I'd talk to S quietly, just state the facts calmly, that you saw this conversation and it upset you. Tell her why and how you feel, and if she doesn't apologize, it doesn't mean you should stop being friends, just maybe that you should tone down how you act, but, more then that, not take her opinion so seriously. As I was 14 a year ago, I can promise who likes/liked whom is not important, even a year later. If she wants to think that, I'd go ahead and let her. It won't harm anyone.

ellienacamile October 26 2004, 09:23:07 UTC

You're 14 and things like that are going to happen. I was 14 not too long ago (18 now) and I well remember all of the “she likes so and so” stuff. Also, 14 year olds are (generally) hypocritical. It's the nature of that age. So asking S to remember how much it upset her when those same rumors were spread about her may not help, but of course it can't hurt. About the best you can do is talk with S about why you are upset and ask her to stop saying things that upset you. And if she is a friend she should at the very least listen to you're opinion, even if she doesn't do as you ask. Honestly though if that doesn't fix things give it a month or two and it probably won't matter anymore. Good luck!

__dyingxday October 26 2004, 12:59:37 UTC

I'll be turning 15 in about 13 days so I know where you're coming from with all the drama. I tell you it doesn't get much better so learning how to handle the situation now is the best thing to do.

You deserve a big pat on the back (haha) for staying out of the conversation at first to give you time to think it over. Never, ever, ever act when you're upset or angry. You need time to chill out and think things over so you don't end up saying something you don't mean.

If I were you, I would talk to S alone sometime and ask her if she said these things. Trust me, do not tell her who told you...even if she asks or guesses right just say "It's someone you'd least expect.." or something. If she denys saying it, then jusy explain yourself anyways. State that you don't like M or T, just to let her know because chances are she probably did say that but is just afraid you will go off on her.

Hope I helped, we're all here if you need anything else. I'm always willing to listen. <3 :D

Stacey - Ravenclaw Healer