Mansplaining to us isn't a good idea

[commanderd]

Of all the communities to start throwing around the old "if you don't want babies then don't have sex!" idiom, you'd think a place like childfree would be off the list.

No. Here we have a moron descending on high to tell us poor misguided women that birth control isn't essential (unlike Viagra) because pregnancy is 'natural' and if we can't afford it we

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[bella_cheval]

On behalf of all sane Americans, I apologize for Rush Limbaugh and all of his kind.

[commanderd]

Oh don't apologise, I don't even regard those people as carbon-based.

[bella_cheval]

I just can't believe how much we've backslid in terms of reproductive rights over the past 5 years or so. It's like these assholes have been lying in wait for the right [or wrong] moment to start chipping away at our rights.

[nolawitch]

Lying in wait, hell! I've been telling everyone I know for decades that these fucksticks were weaseling their way into pharmacy schools so they could deny women birth control. They've been getting elected from lowly offices to better move up to positions of legislative power. They've hijacked the conversation with lies and bullshit. Most of my friends pooh-poohed the idea when I explained it. They said it was only about abortion. It's not; it's about controlling women's lives

[auntiesiannan]

That creep is talking himself into a tighter corner with each comment. I am amused and disgusted all at once.

[commanderd]

I ended up laughing when he came out with how viagra IS necessary because not being able to get an erection is a serious medical problem, but women not wanting offspring is a 'minor desire'.

[kankurette]

It always has to be about teh menz and their almighty PENIS.

[agent_dani]

It does, and I know that people like me would hurt their little brains (I also know they'd have some sort of canned response; I suspect I know what.)

[wiccarowan]

Thank fuck I'm a Brit, honestly.

When I first went on the contraceptive pill, it wasn't because I wanted to run around with my evil godless vagina having sex all over the place, it was because my periods were absolute murder. But I suppose (a) I'm just a silly little woman making a fuss about a tiny bit of pain* that GUUUUUUUUUUUURD intended me to have (b) I should've just got pregnant, that would've sorted me out.

(PS don't get me wrong - I love my son. But I was 33 when I had him, choosing when I did it.)

*endometriosis & adhesions

[kankurette]

Yeah, some people don't seem to understand that not everyone goes on the Pill because they're sexually active. One of my friends has ME and she had to go on the Pill because periods made her ill. I'd go on it myself if my mum's side of the family didn't have a history of reacting badly to it (we always took the minipill or whatever it's called).

[wiccarowan]

Ironically, now that I *am* sexually active I can't take the Pill anyway cos I have hormonal migraines. But really it shouldn't be anyone else's business but mine why I do or don't take it.

The Mini-pill made me insane. INSANE. And when I told the doc she gave me a patronising look and told my I couldn't be taking it properly. How hard is it? Oh shit, you mean I'm NOT meant to put it behind my ear and sing "I've Got A Lovely Bunch Of Coconuts"??

[commanderd]

Oh shit, you mean I'm NOT meant to put it behind my ear and sing "I've Got A Lovely Bunch Of Coconuts"??

Aaaaand there goes my cup of tea!

[phonemonkey]

Seriously, where are you GETTING these men from?

I mean, I've known quite a lot of straight men in my time. And while I didn't exactly take any opinion polls, all of them thought of contraception as "those wonderful amazing pills that women take meaning that we can have sex and not have hordes of babies." And they recognized that contraceptive pills benefit straight men greatly because they get all the advantages of avoiding unwanted pregnancy, but their female partners are the ones who have to accept the risks (very small, but all medicines have potential risks or else they'd be placebo) and side-effects.

Straight men who have a problem with contraception (and aren't the Pope) are genuinely something out of my experience.

[nesmith]

As much as I'd love to shitcan him yesterday, he's not breaking any rules.

Neither, however, are any of you awesome people who are smacking him the fuck down and pwning him all over the place.

[commanderd]

I loved your response to that twit :)

[nesmith]

Much nicer than I felt, but I don't want to be a hypocrite and break the rules that I have to enforce. ;)

I cannot STAND men who think they have ANY right to spout their opinions on birth control, abortion, or any aspect of women's health. Aside from doctors, and I have to side-eye some of them anyway.