I think that you should just be yourself as much as possible, and Jake will enjoy you because of that! Gender roles be damned, it's all twentieth century stereotypes anyways. Women should be allowed the mental freedom to enjoy everything guys do, burping, swearing, opening doors, and what not. Just stay you. Whatever makes you the most comfortable. You don't need to be more man or more woman. You just need to be you.
imo, you should be whoever you want to be whenever you want to be. Wear a dress one day, wear a suit the next. Chop your hair off. When you want to be a lady, you can be a lady with short hair, or you can get a wig. Doesn't matter!
You are a beautiful person no matter what gender you associate yourself with, and that's what matters. ♥
(I think, though this is not my area of expertise, that the term you might be looking for is genderqueer, btw!)
I agree with what everyone else said. Just be yourself! Even in the professional world, you can maintain some sort of aesthetic androgyny, and as for your personal life-- wear what you feel like wearing, act however you wish to act. You don't need to pigeonhole yourself into a traditional gender archetype. None of the the behaviours you're describing are mutually incompatible, and if some of them raise a few eyebrows-- well, people will get over it, and if they're seriously alarmed, they're pretty close-minded. I understand a bit of what you're talking about. I always dress effeminately, but I do overtly chivalrous things for girls. I have a soft spot for sweet girls and like to take care of them, to the point that I've led a few gay girls to believe I'm gay as well. It's okay to be both delicate and protective, to want to be courteous but coddled as well. It's okay to be a gentleman and a lady. It's true that it'll be hard to get professional respect in a jeans and T-shirt, but that goes for all of us, and, even in the
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I'm going to go with harmonious, and say that genderqueer is an excellent concept! Besides all that, though, I must say that, when one refines one's manners to a grand degree, one finds that the line between gentleman and lady blurs. That is to say, good manners, etiquette, and decorum can be universal, and not necessarily gender-specific. When I dress in a frou-frou manner, or when I dress in more casual clothing, I try to mediate my behavior so that I don't become a caricature of "lady" or "gentleman." Striking the right balance, for comfort and for a self-pleasing aesthetic, is possible! I imagine that I don't always get it right, but just like you, I long for a life of refinement, and to refine myself, and to live in a world of beauty.
Admittedly, sometimes bacon cheeseburgers get the best of me. I'm really not shy about eating a bacon cheeseburger in front of folks, while wearing a champagne pink dress and pearls in my ears, though. It's all about confidence, dearest friend. <3
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Just stay you. Whatever makes you the most comfortable.
You don't need to be more man or more woman. You just need to be you.
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You are a beautiful person no matter what gender you associate yourself with, and that's what matters. ♥
(I think, though this is not my area of expertise, that the term you might be looking for is genderqueer, btw!)
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Admittedly, sometimes bacon cheeseburgers get the best of me. I'm really not shy about eating a bacon cheeseburger in front of folks, while wearing a champagne pink dress and pearls in my ears, though. It's all about confidence, dearest friend. <3
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